The False Allure Of Villainy
Recently, I’ve stumbled across several articles and posts dedicated to the benefits of living like a villain and why we should consider it. There were three main points the writer made in the article, Why You Should Live Life Like A Villain, on ROK:
– Villains live more fulfilling lives than heroes.
– Villains command much more respect than heroes.
– The hero never gets the girl while the villain is always up to his eyebrows in pussy.
So essentially, you have to sell your soul if you want to get the girl and enjoy life. I firmly disagree with this. On our deathbeds, do we really want to have lived a life that deep down we were ashamed of? No, I am not encouraging you to be a White Knight. In fact, refusing to be an asshole doesn’t automatically mean the only alternative to that is “White Knighting.”
Don’t get me wrong, because I actually see his point. Yes, the bastards/assholes get laid and the nice-guys flounder in the wind. This is why it might be necessary to invoke just a bit of your inner asshole to get your foot in the door to meeting a girl you are actually interested in. However, do you want to be an asshole for you entire life? In marriage, work, friends, life?
Becoming What You Hate
Notice one of the core tenants of becoming a villain: Being an asshole. The kind of women who are attracted to “bad boys” are likely not LTR material and certainly aren’t marriage material. They might be good for a one night stand, but you will never be able to be “bad enough” before it catches up with you – either legally or through isolating your friends and family – in the long run.
What makes a “bad boy” or an asshole? Let’s think about it for a second. Knowing exactly what you want in a relationship and when to move on doesn’t make you an asshole, rather it makes you carefully think through what you are seeking for in any relationship – including all of the pros and cons. Mike Cernovich makes this point about becoming “Alpha”:
I’d never hate on a man who went monogamous. Being alpha is about getting what you want. If you’re in a relationship that makes you happy, good for you.
If you are looking for a romantic relationship with a girl who only is interested in being your friend, move on immediately as you will be disappointed.
SBK writes: “Bad boys tend to have lots of positive traits that come along for the ride of the badness such as good looks, confidence, creativity, humor, charisma, high energy, and good social skills— all things women find attractive.”
He also found that for men “one striking direct path to mating success stood out… low agreeableness; the lower the agreeableness, the more sexual partners.”
If there is anything TRP has taught me, it’s that confidence is the most important thing anyone can have and that there is a difference between being an asshole and having confidence. It is often “confidence” – more on this later – which helps to create all the “asshole” attributes mentioned in the quote above. The article “Do Assholes Really Finish First?” went into some detail about the success of Tucker Max, who has been able to make a name and a prosperous living off his tales of being an asshole.
However, it seems the shallowness of being an asshole as burnt him out. He literally is doing a form of penance with a reverse pendulum swing to his new site, “Mating Grounds” which is essentially a politically correct tip site on dating advice that we all know doesn’t work too well. Being an asshole however, did burn him out as he points out when he finally came back “online” after years of hiatus:
I was a ridiculous narcissist in my twenties. It’s not even that I didn’t care about other people. It’s way beyond that. I just didn’t even understand that other people even existed or mattered. I do not believe I was a true NPD [narcissistic personality disorder] in the clinical sense. But, dude, I was close.“I ended up hurting a lot of people and not even realizing it. Because of that narcissism, I didn’t connect well to other people. I used a lot of people a lot of times, in ways I didn’t understand.
Separating Confidence From Assholes
The reason why people aspire to be “assholes” is that they don’t realize it is the confidence that assholes have that enables them to be successful with women and other endeavor in their lives. Assholes often show signs of being willing to take risks, being brave, and having ambition. For some reason however, people forget that they can be all of these things – an develop all of those traits in the quote mentioned above – without actually being an asshole.
Let’s face it; assholes are often shallow people. They become the narcissists that we despise. One reason so many of us rightfully dislike feminism is because it turns people into “victims” in which everything is about them and is the fault of somebody else. These people continually attempt to “out-victim” each other and get enraged when you refuse to accept their bullshit.
They get what they want through manipulation and bullying other people – often via social media and political pressure – into going along with what they want. We rightfully condemn these assholes for what they are. Do we really want to become like them and become serial manipulators obsessed with only ourselves first?
Enjoying Life: Transcending Pleasure And Money
We all want to enjoy life. We NEED other people around and with us to do exactly that. Like it or not, it is other humans – that unique component to life – that make it worth living.
If you want to attract girls and be someone who other men want to be around, become a man. Act like a man. Develop a character that bursts from the seams with masculinity. Make sure they can see it through what your actions and what you say. This is where a lot of confusion has taken place in what society – specifically Social Justice Warriors and feminists have defined as being an asshole. Ignore the repugnant nonsense they spew about what makes an asshole, especially considering that this exactly what they have turned into themselves.
Despite what feminists say about what is “toxic masculinity” in men and how it equates to being an asshole, I encourage all of us to be men and to let our masculinity pour from every fiber of your being. Their definition of toxic masculinity is often exactly what men should strive to become. Never forget that.
You don’t have to be a boy scout for the sake of others. You do however want to be a man of courage, honor, and integrity because it is a masculine virtue that will improve your life. It will build up networks of real friends who can become like a second family. The key concept there is “Real Friends”, something which is non-existent for assholes whose “friends” amount to people dedicated to using and manipulating each other.
It will help you to see through the bullshit of the deceitful and at the same time let others see you for the real man that you are. People want to be around men who are actually courageous and honorable. Real virtues are something that the epic heroes of history have aspired to and they attracted the sort of motivated, ambitious, and honorable companions that we all at our very core desire.
Yes, we can romanticize “heroes” to the point of a fantasy that serves no purpose toward improving ourselves and our character. Will aspiring to be a villain as a replacement construct any better of a fantasy? Do any of us – hero or villain – really want to die alone?
Being a villain – specifically one who is an asshole and a narcissist is shallow as people will eventually see you for what you are; a man whose narcissism which will eventually destroy himself. It’s like getting credit card debt. You can spend all the money you want now, but later you will still have to pay the piper, most likely with interest. It may be “easy” and profitable in the short-term, but it will have negative consequences in the long-run. Perhaps those may never actually be financially, but living with yourself and the destruction of your soul will take their own toll.
Go ahead and lie to yourself about how satisfying it supposedly make your life. If we are actually honest with ourselves, we full well know deep down that there is so much more to a fulfilling and enjoyable life then the supposed romantic allure of “living like a villain”. Real life satisfaction comes from becoming a man and living like one.