No Good Deed Goes Unpunished – Opinionated Man

The Beauty of An Actual Diverse Community

Opinionated Man a.k.a. Jason Cushman over at HarshReality is what one could consider a powerblogger of sorts – whatever that term even means anymore.   He actually may be addicted to blogging to the annoyance of his wife.   Over time, he has used his site to promote other WordPress bloggers as well as to promote community interaction between all of us.

In particular, his WordPress Meet & Greet threads for bloggers have been fantastic and he has featured a weekly number of “Guest Posts” written by just about anybody who has come across his site – usually commentors and people who frequent the site.

I’ve written a few guest posts and enjoyed how it let me reach a wider audience with thoughts – I’m sure other guest posters have had the same feeling.    What I now realize is just how invaluable these guests posts are.  Jason isn’t a particularly political, controversial, or culture war type of blogger – though he’s written a few controversial posts.

This has attracted a community that is actually “diverse” and not in the artificial corporate  and blogosphere buzzword sense.   Your thoughts, posts, and ideas will actually be either critiqued, analyzed, and discussed by a group of people with all sorts of opinions.

Think about how significant and rare that it is.

Most blogging communities are echo-chambers in and of to themselves.  Dissenting commentors are labeled trolls and anyone who critiques the groupthink just a bit too much is ousted.  Actual dialogue is usually impossible because of the way dissenting opinions and the people who express them handle the internet.

This results in “safe-spaces” that are subconsciously and indirectly created – often through disabling comments all together or moderating them to an extreme fashion that the only people who frequent are the one’s who agree with essentially everything that is said.

These communities then usually rehash the same sort of crap.  Once in a while, they say something crazy enough to go viral to get page-clicks, and then go back to the intellectual and conversation deprived vacuum.    HarshReality’s community allowed you to actually talk with people outside of the usual echo-chambers and that is becoming harder and harder every day.

Places Where The Best Conversations Occur...
Places Where The Best Conversations Occur…

Something I noticed a few months back was that most of the conversations that took place – even where there was noticeable disagreements – were very amiable.  Jason isn’t big on censorship and comment moderation – so that makes the level of cordial discussion that too place even more surprising.

We may be about to miss that.

Well, Jason’s good deed of promoting and enabling a community was taken advantage of – possibly by a detractor – though we may never know.  Someone used his “Guest Post” feature to post “stolen” material.  I’m still not sure if it was copyrighted or not, but it did get attention and a warning from WordPress:


As the individual who agreed to the Terms of Service contract when activating WordAds, you are responsible for all content posted on your blog and subsequent Terms of Service violations.

It is far more than just those three. From the notes left by the investigators, I’d say probably the entire Guest Blogger Posts category is suspect.

The investigators re-evaluate rejected applications monthly. If they find absolutely no copied content after a much more thorough re-evaluation, they may re-approve your application. If they find even more copied content, they will likely permanently ban your application.



Now Jason’s  guest post system worked pretty well.   Bloggers who wanted to create a guest post would email him, he would briefly check it, and then post it later in the day.   Pretty simple and effective.

Perhaps maybe too simple, but time constraints are a thing and Jason often posted things by his phone and WP’s format isn’t exactly the greatest via cell phone.  For now, these are Jason’s parting words:

“I talk to everyone via email before they guest blog. I am not sure how what happened, happened… but either way it did. I got played.

My wife wants me to stop blogging. I have considered it. I don’t make a lot of money at my normal 40 hour job and blogging was my release… and possibly a way to chase a dream. Perhaps writing will need to take a rain check for now.

Be careful out there. HarsH ReaLiTy will be closed for a bit. Enjoy the articles, that were ALL written by me, and the free promotional posts.

Jason C. Cushman

-Opinionated Man”

If Jason does leave us, who will pick up his mantle? I don’t have alot of hope, but you never know.  One thing is for sure – they can’t be a control freak on a power trip – which limits our options on the internet severely.

Not Everyone Cares For MLK Day. Why?


Opinionated Man (OM) over at Harsh Reality is known for offending people and he’s at it again with an article most of us wouldn’t have had the balls to write entitled, “Why I don’t care for Martin Luther King Day”  Yes, he went there.  Another day, another Cushman crushing.

From An Asian Perspective...
From An Asian Perspective…

MLK like Lincoln, Washington, and Reagan,  is one of American culture’s Golden Calves.  You can’t even point out any wrong they did or any mistaken ideas they espoused without being labeled some kind of “ist or ism”.  In this case, you would be labeled a racist.  It’s almost a reverse, “guilt by association.”

Luckily for those of us with with “privilege” – in my case I only have half-white privilege – OM a.k.a Jason Cushman is a actually an Asian and an adopted one at that.   People can’t label him a racist as easily and he makes full use of this and well, he just doesn’t care.

It is the personal story of Jason and many of the commentors that is worth a lengthy observation as to why and how MLK day becomes a free-for-all to actually become a racist and to judge people specifically based on their skin – social justice warriors, I’m looking at you and some of the latest vitriol, “Reading Challenge: Stop Reading White  Straight Cis Male Authors For One Year”

Insert any other race, gender, ect into there and that kind of headline would have career ending effects.  But I digress.

Jason’s Story

“The black friends I had were born from friendships at my 80% black school (maybe it wasn’t 80% exactly but it sure felt like 99% most days)…

My school was “pro” anything that made African Americans feel important…”

What if his school had been anything that made White or Asian Americans feel important? (Currently these are the two easiest races to pick on without career ending implications.)

“I learned with every other kid in my school the good works that Martin Luther King did and I was truly proud of his accomplishments…”

“What I could not understand was how could the Blacks at my school celebrate equality and freedom and in the same breath bash with malice an Asian kid for being Asian. It was so hypocritical to me that my disdain extended past the handful of kids tormenting me and included their whole race…”

This post by Jason is so important, because it’s rare to see anyone openly talk about MLK day in a negative light or the “racial reconciliation” that’s supposed to take place on the day.

“It did not breed hatred, at least not at this point, but what it bred was a scorn for this holiday and even this man that was not fairly handed out. But pain and suffering create feelings that are not always rational. I know this now, looking back I probably knew this at the time as well, but the result is still the same. I dislike this holiday and all I see is hypocrites.”

I honestly expect this kind of treatment and hypocrisy on racial issues to get worse over the years as we attempt “racial reconciliation” with people who proudly proclaim things such as, “There is no such thing as reverse racism,” or Racism requires power. Without it negative racial feelings might be discriminatory but they certainly aren’t racist.”   Yea, she just said that.   Looks like “yellow” privilege might be coming to a social media feed soon near you.

This kind of thinking has now spread to gender, ethnicity, “cis” and every other category we can dream up to be terrible toward others, but somehow excuse it.  The next time you are being beaten to death by an “oppressed group”, I’ll be curious to see who holds the power in that situation.  Even then though, some people still will blame themselves, as this white college did after he was mugged.  He apparently deserved it because of his privilege.

In the comments, Jason addresses the question of who and why we should hold MLK up as a hero and what he should mean to Americans,

“I disagree. He means nothing to me as an Asian. He did not end segregation for us. He did not give me any scholarships or a future where Korean Americans are valued. He did nothing for us. Was he a good man? Sure. But I hate when people try to TELL us who our heros are. He is not my hero.”

Ah the subject of cultural heroes – a very violate one in today’s climate – but that is for another post.  Observe his point though.   Is MLK a hero for what he did for each and every one of us or because society and popular culture tell us he was?  That’s for each person to decide.

The Commentors Have Their Say

There are some telling comments in OM’s post about how much celebration of MLK day could take place and what kind of discrimination via hypocrisy people had faced. Note these comments are those of people who primarily share similar misfortune to Jason’s situation and experience.

Amanuensis – ” I am a black female mid 40’s, who was harassed, belittled and made to feel inferior by other black kids at school. The kids in my neighborhood were fine, but at school, I was called an “oreo” (black on the outside white on the inside,) I talked “white,” what is that really? I read books during recess and tried to avoid all confrontation. I was a “nerd” because I got good grades and got put into a special program for high IQ kids. I was a traitor because I had white friends. I was just happy to have friends who were like me, no matter the race.”

Ashley – “Growing up, in school, I was also teased by my own race (blacks). I got teased because I didn’t act like the rest, I was mostly quiet and felt like I couldn’t speak for a while, because of the damage. Kids can be so cruel. Im story for going on and on about my feelings, but the point I’m making, is you are not the only one who didn’t celebrate MLK bday.”

mykiasmind – it was the Black kids at home that made me feel really out of place. They made fun of me because I “talked white” and went to a “white school” and actually had to do my homework and play “white” sports. They ostracized me from all the other kids in the neighborhood and I hated them for it. Now that I’m older, I realize that it was just ignorance, lack of knowledge and understanding about anything different than what they were used to… but the damage is still done. So I get it.

Elta – Until high school, I went to school where black kids were the majority. I remember this one time where a teacher was announcing the dates we had off for school and he mentioned MLK Day. This one asshole in the class opens his mouth and says “Elta should come for HALF the day, since she’s only HALF black”. Mouthes dropped in the classroom and everyone looked at me.

… I had told him that I was half Korean and not to tell anyone because kids were usually mean to me once they found out. It happened before. Fucking asshole proceeded to then tell the class that I should keep my Black side at home but bring the Korean part to school because Martin Luther King “didn’t die for no chinks”.

Feminadazza – “Black people discriminate too. Just because one Great Black guy is celebrated he is not the embodiment of an entire race. You speak of yourself because of your experiences, and you are justified to think that way of Martin Luther King day. I don’t celebrate it, although I’m black. There are some shit stuff black people do that I’m expected to tolerate, but I find them immature – a thought that could immediately isolate me. Nevertheless, I hear you loud and clear, and respect your opinion.”

Penshift – ” I’m of mixed racial decescent. However I look very white. Because I look white I always get the accusatory end of the stick the moment the subject of discrimination comes up. In the more heated ‘discussions’ I have always loved the blame laying -_- I’m white therefore I’m personally at fault for the slaves sold into slavery; I personally ripped the ‘stolen generation’ from their kin. All this shows is that discrimnation comes in many forms and can be justified a little too easily.”

infjreflections – “I don’t get why we can celebrate some races, but not others. It is racist to celebrate any race that isn’t black. I live right next door to a playground, where 3 black boys were playing with a white kid. They said to the white kid, “If you white, you racist!” REALLY?? Is that what parents are teaching their kids? It’s no wonder race is still such an issue! We are teaching our children that your skin color alone indicates that you are racist.

Adam – I don’t care much for the Federal holiday because it does not coincide with the 15th—MLK Jr’s actual birthday. And what happened Monday? I heard more about protests than anything else, and barely anything besides maybe people talking about not working. Where is the legacy today? Hypocrisy is an understatement.

leonahenry – There is racism and bigorty within the white race, too. I’m blonde and pale skinned, but when I lived in California, I was picked on and bullied of all the time by the Anglo supremacist jerks just because I was an immigrant with an accent. If you are not WASP and have a foreign accent, you are a second class citizen in their eyes, regardless of color.

In Remembrance: Opinionated Man

Opinionated Man a.k.a Jason Cushman recently had the unfortunate experience of being told by WordPress that “mass following” – which literally can include simply following too many people back – is now a WordPress crime under the “spam” category.    We all hate spam, but this is a curious redefinition and it changes how the game is played right in the middle of it.

It’s kind of like playing a game with an older brother that suddenly tells you about a new rule in the game that you didn’t know about, but it benefits him alot.  You check out the rulebook and its apparently there.

It grabs your attention doesn’t it?

Except in this case, there are A LOT of rules.  Often these Terms Of Service agreements and the subsequent rules that follow are substantial.  It’s often hard to realize you’ve broken a rule, simply because there are so many of them.  It allows WordPress to play a kind of “Gotcha!” game.   This was a moderator’s official explanation:

The follow feature was intended to help you read blogs that you enjoy, not as a means of promotion. Our automated systems may interfere with behavior that looks more like a spam bot than a human.

I find this explanation puzzling, considering that following someone is a means of promotion. It’s not exactly the same thing as “sharing” a post and/or blog would be via social media and other means, but it is promotional.

I suppose there is only so much a blogger can take, and Cushman has decided that his number is up.  Harsh Reality will now be going “Private“. I’m not exactly sure what that means and the exact impact of it, but being the genius that I’m not, even I know it’s not good.

HarsH ReaLiTy will go “private” next week. I will keep the domain since it is worth money and will decide what to do with the site later. I appreciate all the support, but please just let it go. No reason for other sites to get flagged or banned because of my little blog. Take care WP and I have enjoyed the past two years.

If you have articles you have shared on this website please copy and grab them before the 7 days is up. Thanks.

Jason C. Cushman


To myself, this is a dastardly and unexpected blow.  One of the primary reasons I continued to blog and started to enjoy it was encountering Harsh Reality.

I can still recall the first time I stumbled on his site and read the header and thought to myself, “Someone who wants to offend everyone at least once!”   In today’s day and age of internet activists who exist in their own bubbles, it’s alot easier to offend people than you would think, but can also be alot more costly, especially if the ensuing twitter lynch mobs have their way.  It’s why I appreciated Jason’s balls – (That is going to look interesting out of context.) – a lot more then most might.   Hopefully, OM stick’s around, but perhaps… just perhaps, he needs a bit of a break.

Here’s to Jason:

Your thoughts and insight are appreciated.

Get Over Yourself Because We Already Have.

My favorite Asian badass, Opinionated Man from Harsh Reality, strikes again in a recent post today involving one of the biggest problems that plagues mankind; those who dare to disagree on the internet. In the words of a modern day Asian wiseman, “Get Over Yourself.

One of my favorite responses I often see on message boards, forums, my own facebook, ect. are responses and posts to my own such as:

  • “I can’t believe you said that!”
  • “Tell me you don’t think this!”
  • “How dare you be this ignorant!
  • “You can’t say that!”

Newsflash. I said that, I’m not sorry, and I’ll say it again. Fine, we disagree. I honestly thought it would never happen.  Let’s leave it like that right? Wrong.  The hounds start to bark, the crows start to circle, and the night starts to darken.  Demands for your head, your job, your blog, and your imminent seclusion from internet and blogging life.


A growing number of narcissistic individuals on the internet – I’m shocked – seem to think that they not only should own and control their own havens of internet brilliant dialogue, but that yours should be included in their Iron Curtain like grip.

Do you not concur with the popular group-think on your blog and even Facebook? Then bow down, present your ass for punishment,  and plead for mercy and forgiveness for having alternative thoughts.   These kinds of folks won’t even stop eating their own, so they won’t care if they eat you.  This is why you must ignore them like they aren’t there and never back down.

This was just a slight offense and an apology and clarification weren't enough.
This was just a slight offense and an apology and clarification weren’t enough.

It’s not enough to even delete a post, a tweet, ect these days. You actually need to dress in digital sackcloth and ashes as you admit your sins to an obvious disproving public.   This shit needs to stop and it STOPS with me, you, and all of us with balls.  That includes you ladies.

Let’s engage in a reality check. This isn’t your facebook. It isn’t your blog. You don’t control my blog. You don’t control Opinionated Man‘s blog. This isn’t Reddit. I know that particular mobs of people who can’t handle disagreement or alternative POVs want to downvote your thoughts into oblivion, but are stymied and enraged that they can’t!   This particular mob of internet group-think digital ravagers that inhabit fiefdoms with North Korean like intentions on internet discourse and dialogue however will give it all they have to make you recant. However, we won’t, because we dont give a shit.

Important lessons must be learned early for all self-respecting bloggers.  I’ll kindly, but firmly drill them in:

  1. Don’t give a shit.
  2. . You don’t need to care if people get offended over your blog, facebook, or twitter.  Life is short and you don’t want to be 90 on your deathbed having never voiced your true thoughts.
  3. As OM puts it ,“Even if the world comes crashing down upon you, own your views and don’t allow others to intimidate you into changing your opinions.” 
  4. Stand by what you think and NEVER back down.  Don’t apologize for what you think. Let the wave of intolerant naysayers crash against your polished steel sides.  You shall not be moved.
  5. Assert your thoughts, posts, and conclusions with the utmost confidence.

Don’t cave in on your blog for any reason, because it won’t end there. The pattern you set endangers yourself.  Imagine what is and has been next.  Your private life decisions may be next if you indicate you are willing to submit. Remember Brandon Eich from Mozilla? He lost his job because of this consistent subconscious desire by himself and his employer to give in and back down. Don’t be Firefox.  (Note that The Atlantic isn’t some religious conservative bastion of backwards thought.)

Armenia out.