Skinny Shaming Isn’t As Harmful as Fat Shaming Because Equality.
Confused? Me too. Another day in the femsphere and another confounded look on my face. If you are skinny, prepare to enjoy yet another slap upon the usual skinny slaps for daring to take care of your body. I have a skinny but fit body, so I’m already checking my privilege as I take my lumps.
I stumbled upon this article on my newsfeed and since I don’t completely immerse myself just in my own preferred bubble of thoughts, I made sure to read though it. Of course, it confirms my pessimism even more in our “Western” society. Here are some choice quotes:
“You can’t oppress the people who have social power. That’s not how it works.”
This “logic” astounds me. Really? If 40 Christians in Syria beat the ever-loving shit out of an Arab Muslim on the street it would still be oppression.
And sometimes, justice looks unfair.
If it looks unfair, it’s probably not justice.
This is the same kind of logic with affirmative action and racial quotas. You need to use discriminatory methods to fight previous discrimination and rectify it’s effects – except it never seems to work and exacerbates the already polar racial climate that exists in the U.S. The playing field will NEVER be leveled out if you keep un-leveling parts of it to level the other parts.
Oppression is oppression. It doesn’t change regardless of who engage is it. There are no free passes. Discrimination is Discrimination. You can’t simply jump through special hoops to make it okay when you do it, but not when others do.
Atheism, Self-Hedonism, and Shintoism help us.
Youtube Atheist spokesperson, The Amazing Atheist – love him or hate him – released a video which was guest hosted by Mr. Repzion. Let’s go back a week and half. It appears Anita Sarkeesian is again in the center of the spotlight of controversy courtesy of twitter.
We need to seriously address connections between violence, sexism and toxic ideas of manhood before boys and men commit more mass shootings.
— Feminist Frequency (@femfreq) October 24, 2014
Not a coincidence it’s always men and boys committing mass shootings. The pattern is connected to ideas of toxic masculinity in our culture.
— Feminist Frequency (@femfreq) October 24, 2014
It doesn’t take a genius to notice that Sarkeesian – a fellow Armenian – is using a time tested political tactic: appropriating a very tragic school shooting for her own purposes. Her narrative seems straight to the point that based on her twitter. She assumes that the concept of masculinity – the idea of being a man – is indeed ALWAYS toxic to the point of mass shootings. Perhaps I’m mistaken, but that seems to take exploitation of a tragedy to a new degree.
Mass shootings are one tragic consequence of a culture that perpetuates toxic ideas of masculinity. This is how patriarchy can harm men too.
— Feminist Frequency (@femfreq) October 25, 2014
Somehow I get the feeling that Sarkeesian doesn’t see anything good about the concept of masculinity and that it is never separate from its “toxic” nature. Luckily for myself, I’m used to being dehumanized by feminists. Unfortunately, many males however are not. Look at the next generation of young boys who are being bombarded by the idea that everything they do is toxic both culturally, in social media, and in the schools.
- Playing war by using their hands as guns
- Sword fighting with sticks
- Being curious about girls
- Not wanting to sit in a chair for hour straight
- Wanting to play more physical during recess – assuming they get one.
Disagree with a feminist? Toxic masculinity.
Don’t find a woman attractive and therefore don’t want to date them? Toxic masculinity.
Practice true equality by not offering to open the door, pull out the chair, and refusing to offer to pay for dinner? Toxic Masculinity.
Enjoy MMA, the UFC, and anything of a physical nature? Toxic Masculinity.
You get the idea. I hope the next generation of boys can survive considering that having a pair of testicles is now an immediate indictment of toxic masculinity.
On my WP feed, an important post was made on a blog I follow called , “A Holistic Journey“. The blogger, alohaleya, recently wrote a post, My Fiction Put Me In Debt, in which she talks about the effects of resentment in her life toward her father as well as feeling shame for holding others responsible.
What specifically caught my attention was the following:
“I’m the one who’s chosen to interpret my life events as I have. I’m the one who’s assigned deep meaning to old memories…and this meaning no longer serves. For years, I viewed my dad in a certain way because I’d trained myself to see only what supported my stories.“
Often we get stuck in this kind of rut that resembles our own personal bubble which we alone shape. We end up forming a narrative that specifically is based off what we allow ourselves to focus on. This isn’t something to be judged for as much as its just a fact of life for every individual. What alohaleya did here is to recognize it. The sooner we recognize this, the sooner we can actually attempt to take control of our lives.
“But I am ashamed of how I’ve held others responsible for the situations I’ve created. I’m now seeing the power I have to choose and to create differently.”
For those of us willing to admit it, we have all gone through this. I have realized something however; it’s important to take responsibility for the situations we are in, because even if we can lay the blame 100% squarely on the shoulders of someone else – even if they are completely fault – you are still in that nasty situation regardless of who is at blame.”
It doesn’t magically get better or go away, even if we feel better if someone else takes the “blame”. Our society – particularly in America – teaches us to blame someone else and use that blame to appeal to others for help. In other words, you are forced to depend on others to make your life better. Will doing that actually improve the situation that you are in? (Not just financially, but your life in general?)
I find her post inspirational. Life is short. Very short. I came across the story of Lauren Hill, a girl whose dream to play basketball, will ultimately be ended by her brain cancer which gives her only a few weeks to live. Put yourself in a situation where you only have a few weeks to live. Would you hold on to the problems of the past? Or move on to the future? Stay strong alohaleya and keep growing.
“To Move On, Is To Grow.”
Where are the catcalls? Oh noes!
I often browse the blog of economist and author Aaron Clarey who goes by the name, Captain Capitalism for his blog. His post, Conservative Idiots Who “Protest the Vote” about this upcoming election misses an important lesson from history where voting 3rd party changed the results of an election.
History – for those of us who actually read it instead of watching Netflix – can teach us all sorts of fun things that internet comment brawls can’t.
Voting 3rd party can push a main party in a specific direction. Don’t believe me?
Take for example the presidential election of 1924. Calvin Coolidge crushed his main democratic opponent, but his election win helped reveal a noticeable split had occurred in the democratic party.
The democrat nominee for president was John Davis. During the election, he was considered by the growing progressive movement of the time to be too conservative. Just think about that. One only wonders what being considered too conservative by the Democrat party meant back then. Note the populist influence on progressives of the early 20th century.
The progressives that usually supported the democrat party – even though it didn’t exactly completely and utterly yet emanate their views – bolted from the party in protest and voted in favor of the 3rd party progressive candidate Robert M. La Follette from Wisconsin. This represented a deep fragmentation in the party that had finally manifested on a national level of impact.
The Election of 1924
It was a landslide election, particularly in the electoral votes for Coolidge. However, the popular vote totals are very important.
1. Calvin Coolidge receives 15,723,789 of the popular vote thus 54% of it.
2. John W. Davis receives 8,386,242 of the popular vote thus 28.8% of it.
3. Robert M. La Follette receives 4,831,706 of the popular vote thus 16.6% of it.
The end result of the 1924 election for the democrat party is that the party embraced the ideal of the progressives on their party plank and the party was forever changed. The party had secured the future votes of Progressives, but the conservative element of the party would move into a decline that is evident of the party today.
As a pessimistic libertarian, imagine if the Libertarian party cost the republicans 16% of the popular vote in a presidential election.
Yes, the “evil” Democrats would have even more of a free reign to destroy our lives than they usually do, but the Republican Party would have to change its positions if it wanted to again be a party capable of winning major elections.
We Need A System Implosion
Honestly, the Republican party is in trouble. It has been for some time just due to simple demographics. It needs to change, and it needs to change now if it wants to slow the decline. Perhaps a widespread deviation from the party by libertarian voters who are usually forced to pick between the best of two evils is taser to the nipples that the party needs.
Even if it doesn’t work in this hypothetical future situation- even though history has shown its worked in the past – the decline of the country will happen even faster. I’ve always been leaning toward the conclusion that the country is doomed. As Stephan Molyneux has one said, “The experiment in limited government has been a failure.”
I am now to the point where I strongly believe the system can’t be saved. It needs to implode and restart. We need to let the car wreck of today happen instead of pushing it off with “The Republican Party” of the trainwreck of 50 years from now. Either it’s gonna hurt now, or alot more in the future. The recent riots we’ve seen in Ferguson and now Baltimore are only the beginning.
Reading through Aaron Clarey’s (Captain Capitalism) book on the incoming decline of the country has re-affirmed and reinforced my conclusion. It is because of his views on the country’s future as a whole that I find it confusing as to why he wants to delay socialism or simply setback the incoming trainwreck through voting. I’d much rather have it happen now. (Granted I’m newly only 26, single, and have no kids.)
Now you can still be pessimistic, but you still get everything back from our robbing thieving government and enjoy life and the decline as it happens. If they are going to rob you, its time to use the welfare system to rob them back. I highly suggest Aaron Clareys: Enjoy the Decline: Accepting and Living with the Death of the United States.
Note the very conservative viewpoint of the book, but economics and our massive bureaucracy doesn’t lie. You can’t sustain a system in which there are more people who don’t work vs those that do.
Cheers to all my fellow vagrants.
I live like a homeless person. I can sometimes grab food when I stay at my friends house or at my parents, but often I end up sleeping in my car to save gas. This means that the free cheap meals can be hard to attain.
One of the biggest expenses that I, many college students, and many of my friends have in general is eating out. Unfortunately that usually includes crappy fast food which you know is bad for you, but you don’t have the time to cook a meal. Welcome to my world.
Well it’s time to stop cramming those Mcdoubles down you mouth and save yourself some money – while eating some cheap healthy food of course that will help you lose that weight destroying your self-esteem.
1. Stop at a Jewel, Marianos, Walmart, ect and pick up some fruit. You can also often get baby carrots for dirt cheap. Bananas and Apples are your close friends. Ideally, you want to focus on produce that you can eat while you drive.
2. You can stop at places like Dollar General, Family Dollar, ect and get nuts. Avoid the roasted and heavily salted nuts if possible. Almonds, peanuts, and cashews make very good sources of protein that will help fill you up.
3. DRINK MORE WATER. It’s a known fact that water not only will decrease your appetite and thus your desire to eat food, but it’s very important to your overall diet. Something like 70% of American’s are dehydrated. That’s bad, M’kay?
4. Don’t buy food at gas stations if possible. If you have no choice, settle for nuts of some kind. They will at least fill you up. Also, refrain from drinking soda. It will dehydrate you and its no secret that its actually bad for you.
5. Avoid fast food like the plague. It often won’t fill you up – your body knows – and its that consistent dollar here and there that start to add up to that 100$+ a month spent on crappy food. Don’t be that person.
I can not strain this enough: Places like Dollar Tree and Dollar general are your friends as they will allow you to attain nuts for a cheap price providing your source of protein. You could easily drop about 10$ and have enough nuts to hold you over for the week – assuming you throw some fruits and basic veggies into the mix. Trader Joes is known to have one pound bags for about 2$. Simply stop at a grocery store for the rest and you have your apples, pears, plums, bananas, and baby carrots for easily under 20$ that can last you the rest of the week.
One of the key ways to losing weight it so simply eat less – something that you can accomplish without starving yourself to death. You can reduce your overall appetite through carefully eating small meals – an apple here and some nuts there – over the course of the day.
Eat cheap and well my friends.
One way to shut someone up is to either scare them with the threat of a lawsuit or just actually sue them. It appears Chris Kluwe understands this, but this time he isn’t picking on his former NFL team, but rather on a mansophere entrepreneur and lawyer, Mike Cernovich, from Danger & Play with the “defamation” card this time.
While usually these tactics are employed by angry businesses and corporations on yelp against anonymous users for negative reviews, you can apparently go after people for their tweets on twitter as well. This is probably just one more reason why you might want to consider anonymity on most social networks.
For the common man and the poor this usually spells doom – all kinds of impending doom. Even if you win or successfully defend yourself in court, your finances are going to be in trouble. It’s like going through a divorce where you lose all of your “stuff” no matter if your wife takes the house or not, because she’s also taking your beer fridge.
Take note of this tactic however. Mike Cernovich has a legal background which means he won’t need to hire lawyers to defend him, but his valuable time will still be wasted. The rest of us however can’t afford lawyers. Be VERY careful as to exactly what you say about certain people. Check all your bases and make sure you can’t be accused of libel, slander, and defamation.
Anything can be subjectively interpreted as harassment a.k.a. “defamation” so bullies like Chris Kluwe need to be called out for actions like this. Hold him accountable for this kind of financial oppression and censorship as it could happen to any of us who don’t have Kluwe’s millions to fight a legal battle. Stay strong Mike.
My favorite Asian badass, Opinionated Man from Harsh Reality, strikes again in a recent post today involving one of the biggest problems that plagues mankind; those who dare to disagree on the internet. In the words of a modern day Asian wiseman, “Get Over Yourself.”
One of my favorite responses I often see on message boards, forums, my own facebook, ect. are responses and posts to my own such as:
- “I can’t believe you said that!”
- “Tell me you don’t think this!”
- “How dare you be this ignorant!
- “You can’t say that!”
Newsflash. I said that, I’m not sorry, and I’ll say it again. Fine, we disagree. I honestly thought it would never happen. Let’s leave it like that right? Wrong. The hounds start to bark, the crows start to circle, and the night starts to darken. Demands for your head, your job, your blog, and your imminent seclusion from internet and blogging life.
A growing number of narcissistic individuals on the internet – I’m shocked – seem to think that they not only should own and control their own havens of internet brilliant dialogue, but that yours should be included in their Iron Curtain like grip.
Do you not concur with the popular group-think on your blog and even Facebook? Then bow down, present your ass for punishment, and plead for mercy and forgiveness for having alternative thoughts. These kinds of folks won’t even stop eating their own, so they won’t care if they eat you. This is why you must ignore them like they aren’t there and never back down.
It’s not enough to even delete a post, a tweet, ect these days. You actually need to dress in digital sackcloth and ashes as you admit your sins to an obvious disproving public. This shit needs to stop and it STOPS with me, you, and all of us with balls. That includes you ladies.
Let’s engage in a reality check. This isn’t your facebook. It isn’t your blog. You don’t control my blog. You don’t control Opinionated Man‘s blog. This isn’t Reddit. I know that particular mobs of people who can’t handle disagreement or alternative POVs want to downvote your thoughts into oblivion, but are stymied and enraged that they can’t! This particular mob of internet group-think digital ravagers that inhabit fiefdoms with North Korean like intentions on internet discourse and dialogue however will give it all they have to make you recant. However, we won’t, because we dont give a shit.
Important lessons must be learned early for all self-respecting bloggers. I’ll kindly, but firmly drill them in:
- Don’t give a shit.
- . You don’t need to care if people get offended over your blog, facebook, or twitter. Life is short and you don’t want to be 90 on your deathbed having never voiced your true thoughts.
- As OM puts it ,“Even if the world comes crashing down upon you, own your views and don’t allow others to intimidate you into changing your opinions.”
- Stand by what you think and NEVER back down. Don’t apologize for what you think. Let the wave of intolerant naysayers crash against your polished steel sides. You shall not be moved.
- Assert your thoughts, posts, and conclusions with the utmost confidence.
Don’t cave in on your blog for any reason, because it won’t end there. The pattern you set endangers yourself. Imagine what is and has been next. Your private life decisions may be next if you indicate you are willing to submit. Remember Brandon Eich from Mozilla? He lost his job because of this consistent subconscious desire by himself and his employer to give in and back down. Don’t be Firefox. (Note that The Atlantic isn’t some religious conservative bastion of backwards thought.)
The three greatest inventions ever know to man are pretty damn obvious. They include the electric shaver, the urinal, and the internet. Okay, semantics aside dogs aren’t actually men’s best friend; the electric shaver is. Two things to consider:
1. You DONT have to be clean-shaven. You can even grow a massive beard. Even if your job bans facial hair or has strict guidelines about it, there are always ways around. Example: Go to your local mosque, tell the Imam you want to convert to Islam, and bring the proof of your conversion to your work. They won’t hassle/ try to fire you later as no one wants to get sued for workplace discrimination against Muslims. Then just go about your business like you did before.
2. Stubble and heavy stubble is your friend. There are plenty of studies out there to show that women often prefer at least a good/heavy degree of stubble. Even man-hating site Jezebel agrees with me! Do it.
Now guys who dove headfirst into their dawning of facial hair- that started at 16 for me – were first enjoyed and enthralled. I remember seeing the hairs growing and feeling almost like I had won the lotto, asserted my dominance, and gotten the girl.
Only two years later, I was getting fed up with razors and the constant irritation covering my face where ever I had shaved. Yes, I used aftershave which is a must if you want to reduce irritation afterwards. I only had slight acne a few years back, but it’s enough to dampen your confidence when you realize that girls prefer a face that doesn’t look it’s been rolled around in Poison Ivy.
It was then that invested in my first electric shaver. I noticed immediate results. My face wasn’t getting cut. The irritation was much less, if not non-existent. The shave was much faster and easier. Of course, I always used aftershave afterwards – never neglect that finish.
As time as gone by, I’ve realized that it is still difficult to get that semi-heavy stubble look I’ve been desiring as of late. I had a full beard that made me look like I was from Iran, (I have ancestors who live in an adjacent country to Iran.) but I decided it was time to try out that stubble look which I could only seem to manage well very rarely with my shaver. I went out and got another shaver that had guards with three different lengths.
Shaving my full beard down to that semi-heavy stubble was actually made very easy with the guards. I got an easy all around and consistent stubble that was actually very fast. Results?
If you are trying to get any kind of stubble look which you can easily maintain every two-three days, I highly suggest getting a cheap electric shaver from Walmart which is good for the getting the real close stuff – your cheek for instance – and a reasonably priced shaver which comes with at least three guard sizes for facial trimming and “sculpting.”
Your facial time is now. Carpe Diem.