Salon “Journalist” Amy Mccarthy Insists Metal and Hardcore Shows Are Unsafe For Women

The Black Dahlia Murder at the Warped Tour 2013. Moshpit

Apparently country, metal, and hardcore shows can all be lumped into one large group of live shows that perpetuates a “War On Women.  We now all know that the people who go to see Stick To Your Guns also go to see Carrie Underwood.    Who would have thought?!?!

I strongly doubt our friend Amy Mccarthy has actually been to a hardcore or metal show, but it didn’t stop her from slandering the scene and equating the “dangers” there to something resembling the Congo.   She mentioned posers in her article, and if there is one in the room, its not any of us.  If her writing is any indication, she’s never been to the Warped Tour, to SXSW, Mayhem, Riot Fest, Chaos, ect.

This still doesn’t stop her from equating metal/hardcore shows with country and others to the point that she never bothers to really distinguish between them.   It’s not incidental, its deliberate so that her article appears to encompass as many genres as possible.  All shows are lumped into the “evil” category via guilt by association.    Obviously, she has been to a country show, but she dishonestly tries to pretend that hardcore/metal shows present similar “dangers” of which will be covered soon in this piece.

Well, the “War On Women” now spreads its grimy manly tentacles into our scene – and Amy Mccarthy is downright appalled.   How do we know this?  You can read her entire, “Punched, groped, beer thrown in my face: Being a woman at a concert can be terrifying, at the vestige of powerful, fair, and unbiased journalism that is Salon.    Wow, I didn’t know only women could be terrified at shows, but who cares when the other gender gets hurt, right?    Also, until Amy Mccarthy told us, I didnt know that girls who attend shows are fragile, scared, helpless, and frightened creatures who can’t think for themselves whatsoever.  I’m glad I know this now though.

Before I forget,  shame on AltPress for promoting this hit-piece. 

She talks a big game, but lets look at some of the points she makes about metal and hardcore. She’s one of us – not a poser, groupie, ect – right?


“Most women who frequently attend live shows will tell you that they have been harassed, groped or assaulted as they listen to their favorite bands. A standing-room-only show, when you’re wedged into a massive crowd fueled by beer and testosterone, is particularly scary. There seems to be a spectrum of violence that women experience at live shows, ranging from misogynist verbal harassment to sexual assault.”

Notice her claim about “most women”.  Well, if we want to accept her bizarre anecdotal claims, ask girls you know who go to live shows how often they have been harassed, groped, or assaulted.     No, having your butt touched when crowd surfing doesn’t count.  Neither does it when you are jumping up and down, moshing, that OTEP incident, or trying to get a better spot closer to the front.  You will hear some stories, but they are exceedingly rare – you know like false rape claims.

“A standing room-only show.”  

How many metal/hardcore shows have you been to where it has not been standing room only?  Yea, that’s what I thought.   Maybe she is referring to other genres, but she doesn’t bother to make that distinction.  Accident or assassination?  Our reputation lies in tatters.    (Only exception I’ve experienced to this was Summerfest in Milwaukee when August Burns Red and The Devil Wears Prada played in which the stands cut down on much of the area available to stand and mosh.)

“Most important, though, the dangerous and unpredictable nature of concert culture means that it is often entirely unsafe to be a woman in a dark, crowded music venue.”

Red flags.

Anyone else get the idea that she hasn’t been to any metal/hardcore shows in a dark, crowded scary horror movie-like music venue?   How many stories has ANYONE heard about someone actually being sexually assaulted – real sexual assault that is  – or being raped at a show?

“Even when the violence doesn’t escalate to the level of rape, unsolicited touching and aggressive come-ons from drunk musicians and fans alike is all too common.”

This isn’t at all subjective.   Unsolicited touching.   Consider when A Day To Remember played The Rave up in Milwaukee and it sold out.  It was so damn packed that in no way could you not touch someone.  But yea, I suppose there were thousands of incidents of unsolicited touching that happened there.

Drunk musicians and fans? That is very specific to certain festivals and shows.  Most smaller shows don’t have that many people drinking, and for some its not even available. I.E,  how many people actually drink at the Warped Tour? Consider the price of beer and if they are even of age and its pretty damn slim.



“Venues can implement a number of procedures to make shows safer for women, like adding barricades to mosh pits and increasing security presence in the crowds, but it’s still difficult to control what happens in the middle of a frenzied show.”

Catch that?

“Adding barricades to moshpits.”

How exactly is that even possible – considering how, when, and where moshpits actually break out at show?  You would think she’s never even see a pit before. Neither has she considered the fact that putting barricades around a pit would end up hurting people pushed out of the pit…   This in particular flabbergasts me.   Add “Fun Police” and moshpit killer to Amy Mccarthy’s resume.

So Misogynistic. So Metal
So Misogynistic. So Metal

Consider what happens when “security” is added to pits.   They usually attempt to break them up, fights occur between moshers and security guards, and the show is often then usually stopped.   Give it a few weeks, and you fight that yet another venue will no longer hold shows.

“In fact, they should be using their positions to outwardly do everything they can to ensure that these shows are safe for female concertgoers.”

The point of hardcore shows is that they are not safe specifically for anyone – including women.  The aggression and danger is part of the reason people go.  It’s not a Blake Shelton concert environment, and we shouldn’t pretend that it is.  You can’t demand that the shows become made “safe” for a specific group and then get mad when people call them posers, because lets face it then; they wouldn’t actually want the same treatment as the rest of the “group” gets.     If you go to a show to see The Acacia Strain and you get near the pit, people aren’t going to stop moshing or suddenly restrain themselves because you have to decided to enter the area – man, woman, or otherkin.

Entitlement much?

Well, you heard it from her.  We need to show special care, treatment, and deference toward women at shows – because they might get hurt.   I think Amy has a strong developed sense of female narcissism.   Toss out that equality concept.    Perhaps she should go to a Terror show and tell them how it needs to be a safer environment.  I can’t help thinking, does she actually care about the safety of all concert-goer, or just women?

I’m five foot seven and I have to carefully consider what pits I go into and I have to be very aware of who is moshing to ensure I don’t take a punch to the face.    Apparently, my safety doesn’t matter – unless I’m a woman.   Then again, if I go to a show, I don’t expect the atmosphere and environment of the show to change just for me.   You would think that Amy Mccarthy believes women are these weak creatures to be entirely helpless and completely unable to protect themselves.   (Equality right?)


“As for the fans, well, it’s probably unrealistic to ask that they keep their hands to themselves and quietly enjoy the music. Ultimately, it is the artists who have the most responsibility and the greatest ability to ensure that the environment their music cultivates is not inherently aggressive toward women.”

Yes, its VERY unrealistic to ask fans not to mosh and to “keep their hands to themselves.”    Any metal/hardcore artists that ensure an environment that is not aggressive isn’t going to be around very long.

Notice though that the aggression is fine, as long as its not toward women. Earlier, she quotes Lorena Cupcakes complaint, “Our motives are cast as disingenuous; we’re called groupies, posers, and hangers-on. Male dominance is established by questioning our right to be there at all.”

Well, this is why your motives are being questioned.  You want to be there, but you don’t want to participate equally in the aggressive nature of the shows? You want the shows to be specifically made safe for you, but your not a “hanger-on?”

Amy mentioned earlier in the article that, “Depending on the genre you enjoy, male fans who share your interests might call you a “poser,” or insinuate that you’re not as punk or metal or hip-hop (or as whatever) as you claim to be.”    Labeling an environment like a hardcore show as being aggressive toward women, makes it easier to call women  “posers” who participate, because instead of being treated the same as any other guy, you show them special treatment.

The irony is that shows are filled with men who literally white-knight for women all around. Plenty are nice of enough to stand in front of them and shield them from the pit, taking those windmills to the face because equality.  Or helping them to safety when the pit really starts to get going during a The Acacia Strain set.   Girls will tell you tons of stories like this.  Oh wait, I forgot.  Women are weak, helpless, can’t think for themselves, or even enjoy a show!

Personally, I’m a bit more of an asshole and a true equality feminist. Unless I know a girl, and she gets near the pit, I’m not shielding her body with mine – cause equality.  She’s not a poser, she can take – just like me or any other guy – right.    On the flip-side, guys usually care if they hurt a girl in the pit.   They don’t however if you are a guy – your size doesn’t matter.


“Other times it involves being forcefully shoved across a raging mosh pit by someone three times your size, or being touched inappropriately as you try to crowd-surf. These may seem like harmless little interactions, something that should just be expected in a rowdy crowd.”

For once, know your pits.  This applies to literally everyone at the show, regardless of whatever Tumblr gender identity you have that day.   I’m a smaller guy, so I have to pick when and where I go in, especially when the breakdown hits.  I doubt she has ever experienced one.   For two, “women being pushed into moshpits”.  If you are standing near to where a pit suddenly breaks out – that could be anywhere, especially at larger shows – everyone gets either pushed into  the new pit or pushed back out of it, something she isn’t aware of.   I smell a rat Scoob.

Notice how she talked about crowd surfing. It’s pretty damn near impossible not to have your butt touched as you are getting passed toward the stage – or getting your wallet stolen if its in your back pocket.
Surprisingly, Amy actually talks to an “expert” that gets it:

“Metal expert and weekend editor of VICE’s Noisey, Kim Kelly, is particularly used to being banged up at the end of a show. “If I’m at a death metal show or a DIY thrash show in a basement, I know things are gonna get crazy, bottles are gonna fly, and I’m probably going to come home with a few bruises,” she says. “I’ve always been able to hold my own, but women who are smaller or less brash than I am might absolutely feel intimidated by the testosterone-fueled violence. In my experience, if you don’t want to get hurt, you stand in the back or on the side, and keep your guard up.”

I find it humorous that someone – girls specifically – are going to feel intimidated by testosterone-fueled violence.  Consider the amount of places left that you can actually let out your aggression and feel the testosterone coursing through your veins is pretty slim.   Metal/hardcore shows are about all that’s left.


A space that isn't safe for women.
A space that isn’t safe for women.

Hardcore shows are probably the only place where its part of the show.  It should be obvious, but feminists types like Amy want to curb our outbursts of toxic masculinity at our last remaining refuges where they aren’t shunned, but are actually embraced – a sense of community if you will.

When we get upset and speak out about the nonsense, outright lies, falsehoods, and the tripe she spews, we are then of course proving exactly her point – that metal/hardcore aren’t safe spaces and places for women and that we are all terrible misogynists.  Yea, well fuck her.    Maybe eventually, she will name one of these many survivors who has ever been “raped” in this epidemic at the Warped tour. Or Chaos. Or SXSW.  Or Mayhem.  Or any of the hundreds of others.



“It doesn’t seem like too much to ask that the women who are just as much a part of these respective scenes — we buy just as many records, concert tickets, and band T-shirts as men, and are equally supportive of our favorite acts  – not feel physically intimidated when they’re out at shows. In New York’s hardcore scene, bands like the recently reunited Kill Your Idols make it a point to cultivate “positive mental attitude” at their shows and address inequities in their scene, proving that it is possible for these safe spaces to exist without compromising the rowdy vibe that is expected of hardcore punk.”

Safe spaces…

At hardcore shows…

In New York’s hardcore scene…

Yea, she just said that.   Based on everything she has said in this article, she doesn’t want to just kill off the rowdy vibe, she wants to salt the earth after she’s buried the corpse.   She wants to eliminate it and replace it with a safe space that doesn’t wreak of sweaty testosterone misogynistic fueled aggression.    Mccarthy believes that women are too fragile to be exposed to anything that involves… testosterone.

You would think she would know this, but the entire point of a hardcore show – especially in Boston, LA,  and New York is to let yourself go in the pit and at the show. Don’t expect “special” and “safe” treatment. If you want to roll with the guys, expect to be treated like anyone else in the show – especially if you go into the pit.

“Until we address the systemic issues that drive this violence, though, like rape culture and the nonsensical idea that women have to somehow “earn” their place as legitimate music fans, it is likely that even that wouldn’t be enough to make live music a safe and positive experience for women. Still, hearty encouragement from the acts onstage and the venues that host them would be a really helpful start”

What was that about posers? Groupies? Disingenuous?

Oh, that’s what safe-space demanding Amy Mccarthy thinks women are.  In fact,  if we created safe spaces and destroyed New York’s Hardcore scene by turning those triggering mosh-pits into seats filled with male zombies gazing unmoving and silent at the stage, it still wouldn’t be enough.

Don’t give into people like Amy Mccarthy.   If they are unhappy with their scene, they will go after yours, and attempt to kill it if they can’t be as happy as anyone else.  This is the worse form of narcissism – the take-no prisoners kind.    You know why people hate feminism? It’s because of women like Amy who demand that everything revolves around them and hell with everyone else.

Oh and just in case you actually like Country and think she might be over blowing things,  a commenter on Salon called out at least two of the examples which weren’t exactly true – if not outright lies:

While not attempting to minimize or dismiss any of the legitimate complaints of women who have been assaulted or otherwise abused, at least two of the examples provided are flat out false:

1) Tim McGraw was not grabbed “on the leg” — he was grabbed *on the crotch* and rightfully and justifiably responded by hitting the woman who sexually assaulted him.  Had the sexes been reversed, would you offer that up as an example of mistreatment?  I doubt it.

2) The “rape” at the Keith Urban gig at Great Woods was not a rape.  The charges were dropped because it was a consensual act.  The claim of the young woman was not that it was not consensual, but that she didn’t really want to have done it — and that’s a distinction worth making.  Its the difference between things happening without your consent, and things happening with your consent that you wish you hadn’t agreed to do. Huge difference, with massive implications for the other person involved, and definitely needs to be paid attention do.

Oh, also Amy Mccarthy: Don’t talk shit about metal and hardcore shows, until you’ve been to plenty of them.

Warped Tour, Austin Jones, and Mob Justice.


UPDATE: It looks like Austin Jones was guilty of Child Porn Production.

Mob justice – the new Puritans –  strike the Warped Tour in the same way peasant “enlightenment” mobs lopped off heads of denounced enemies of the Republic via the guillotine in the French Revolution.  The accused, Austin Jones, has not even been offered a sham mob justice trial, but has been ushered toward the execution platform.

Tumbrlettes, let’s hold off for a moment on the mob justice and the drivel that is permeating comment sections on this firestorm that are throwing young girls into the “defenseless victims” category and dropping  “gender studies” like buzzwords like victim blaming.   This is the real world, so let’s have a real conversation.  You can surely stave off your Twitter destruction of Austin till the facts come out, unlike the courtesy you showed Joss Whedon.

I’ll say this bluntly; I’m not sure that fan girls – despite their age – “twerking” in videos for Austin Jones necessarily constitutes sexual harassment or anything close to Pedophilia which some people have been throwing out like they do words such as “racism.”    Labels – especially ones like “Pedophile”  that carry as much social weight/burned at the stake consequences as the word “heretic” did during the Middle Ages – should be carefully considered before attached to someone’s name.

In fact, shame on some out the “Journalistic” outlets in our music scene that have already done the labeling and helped further this mob action.  I’m looking at you and your podcast Pupfresh. Let’s try to at least have some cool heads and flush out the facts – you know like real journalists do.  We don’t all have to pull a Rolling Stone.

Also I dub this entire firestorm #TwerkGate

Is it raunchy and inappropriate because of the age variation?  The current socially acceptable answer in this point in Western history would be, “Yes.”  I make that point because of how “relative” everything is in our culture – including the nature of law. Post-modernism has it’s price you know.   Note, I’ll go with “Yes” as well.

To some extent, the twerking video requests do constitute taking advantage.  This however, is not even close to the same level of asking for nudes that the fellow from Front Porch did.  However, would the reaction and disdain for this be different if he was 17 or 18 at the time of these twerking requests?

Depends on who you ask, but the petition is up and they are demanding all kinds of blood and entrails from what is probably going to be the corpse of Austin’s career, especially if this guy has anything to say about it.

Somehow, I don’t think that’s get this beta orbiter laid with these girls that are “so much stronger” than him.   Maybe he can lure some of Austin’s fans into his own quarters.   (Wait for the rant video of his that is later featured in this post.  It’s full of some quality anger and frustration.)

Austin has already been labeled a pedophile and a host of other nasty labels without any real pause to consider how serious said labels are.   The line between what is or is not “pedophilia” on a legal basis can be thin;  in Illinois the legal age of consent is 17 – exception for those over 18 in a position of trust and/or authority.)   In most states its 18.  That one year makes a big difference.

It also assumes actual sexual encounters of someone kind.  Is twerking and some of the “dancing” Austin requested really something we can throw into that category?


Dancing At The Warped Tour

If you’ve actually ever been to the Warped Tour – which I have multiple times and its clear some of this mob hasn’t – it’s a rather large mix of kids who are about to start highschool, already are in highschool,  have just graduated, or are in their early 20s.   You don’t actually know anyone’s age, but its safe to assume a good 50% are in highschool or younger.

I wish Milwaukee's Main Stage didn't suck.
I wish Milwaukee’s Main Stage didn’t suck.

There are many different tents and “booths” set up where people dance – regardless of age.  I managed to win a t-shirt at one “booth” in which I danced with and against multiple people.  The lady with the loudspeaker organizing encouraged us to dance the best we could to eliminate the other competition.  (I won.)

Does this mean she was preying upon the younger kids when she encouraged us all to dance because some of the kids dancing were below 18?

Was it therefore inappropriate?

How about the Trojan condom tent that was giving away freebies to all comers regardless of age? Was that somehow encouraging “inappropriate” activity based on the mixed ages who attend the Warped Tour?

In fact, what about hardcore dancing? Maybe that’s inappropriate depending as well – or some how “sexual”.  (I could make that happen actually.) 

Seriously, who can we all throw under the bus?

A  recent show in  Philly involved some guy ditched all of his clothes and started hate moshing everyone in sight.  At least he waited for the breakdown to behave like a moody insane deviant, but what about all the people around who had to see his bare ass and drooping ballsack?  I guarantee not all of them are 18 – not at these shows.

Should he asked every one there  what their age was and killed the shock surprise factor in the process?   (Note the guy hitting people with a chair is the reason we can’t have nice shows anymore – or rather that most venues won’t allow anything that utters the words, “metal” or “hardcore” in the title on the fliers.


In case I’m a terrible communicator, or you are just very daft, the point is that none of this is every clear-cut where it plays out like a math problem where 1+1 = 2.    Chances are that despite how memorable and legendary this hate-moshing was – he could get nailed for indecent exposure and “to a minor” could be tacked on.    On a side-note, what if he was under 18? Does that mean everyone there that saw him and was moshing as well are guilty of viewing child porn?   (Does that mean this video counts as such? Let’s hope not.

Details Yet To Surface

Some of our enlightened and well-educated friends have already passed judgement in order to be seen as supportive against exploiters and warriors of justice and “deuchebags” in the scene.   Let it be known that it’s rather easy to get thrown under the bus by adoring fans, haters, and Tumblr SJW’s alike.   Kevin Lyman in a surprising change of pace from his usual social justice tenant adherence isn’t ready to join with the above crowd yet.

“The word ‘pedophile’ is a strong, strong term,” Lyman tells AltPress. “While the world can be screwed-up at times, there is a criteria for things. In the court of the internet, people’s lives are being dragged out in front of the world with no due process. People throw very strong words out onto the internet and when it is old news to them, it leaves a trail of destruction in other people’s lives. This country was built on the concept of ‘innocent until proven guilty.’ Are we going to go back to this Salem witch hunt mentality? Communication needs to happen. I am actively encouraging that If women and girls feel they are being victimized, tell your parents, go to the police, talk to counsellors.”

No shit right?

Unlike some,  Lyman actually understands the importance of not rushing to judgement or lightly throwing out labels like “pedophile” in a situation that involves twerking.   Yes, this country was built on innocent before proven guilty, but that can be ignored if you desire to prove your loyalty  to the “Im a good person” club to prove to your fellow highschool mob members – notice the comments on the petition, Youtube, and Twitter; they all wreak of people who have something to prove.

In fact, it’s not enough for you to denounce him, other popular figures in the scene need to do the same or feel bad/made to feel their wrath.  Take some of the people trying to bully comedian Jarrod Alonge  into taking a certain stance:

To everyone that’s been concerned, YES, I’m still on Vans Warped Tour this summer. I’m not actually a “Warped YouTuber,”…

Posted by Jarrod Alonge on Monday, May 11, 2015


On a humorous side note of irony, you’ll notice that the same people who denounce the terrible puritans for the Salem Witch trials gladly encourage and participate in the exact same behavior – except it’s okay when they do it.   Anyone remember their lynching of Sam Pepper?

Lyman is standing very strong in concern to caving into those trying to bully him and tour’s image into dishing out justice before all the details have come out:

When asked if he felt this stance would jeopardize attendance at this year’s tour, Lyman responds, “If you’re not going to go to Warped Tour because of some perceived mob-mentality injustice, you should maybe volunteer at a non-profit that day.”

He put it rather nicely, but this is a rebuke for those people who swear they won’t attend the Tour unless their demands are met.  Note the below video or “podcast” that attacks everything from Austin’s character to if he is funny, entertaining, ect.    I guess ad-hominems determine the truth of allegations.  Here is some SJW commentary in which this fellow seems to rant about “empowering women” and him being on a power trip, abusing his attention, and about how his apology wasn’t good enough.  Not as much on the actual situation. 


This kid is throwing his “friend” to the curb, but it appears he legitimately believes Austin’s behavior was too inappropriate.  So much for friendship right?   I suspect his career might have something to do with it, but I also suspect the social justice mob pressure plays a part.

If you wish to pass judgement, here is some of the supposed evidence:

Austin needs to weather this storm.

His reputation may never be recovered, but these mobs quickly move on after they get bored of their public executions.  If you end up in a similar predicament in which the mob is burning torches and heading your way, remember to stand strong, and wait for the dissipation usually only days later.

Perhaps, just perhaps, we should save the pedophile label for you know – actual pedophiles.

Angry Conversation With a Stranger On A Train

It’s October of last year in the evening. I’ve made it to the train station just in time, half-walking and half-jogging.   My mood is somewhat relieved and I’m looking forward to listening to some music in the bliss of the ride home.

Hopping on the train at the Lake Forest stop, I grabbed a seat on the upper deck, put the other two down near me, and proceeded to lay down on them as a kind of makeshift bed.

Laying down, I glance up at my phone as I browsed through reddit and the newest stories of the perpetual outraged, headphones playing loud angry music in my ear.  Yes, I find Senses Fail to be quite relaxing.


Voiced sounds.

It looks like the guy across is talking to me.  His lips are moving.

Is he?

Yes, he is.

I take out my headphones and he wants to know if I’m okay,  as I was coughing while laying down.  He mentions that, “I’ve seen people die on this train.”

His tone of voice and his non-verbals are seeped in “hidden” distaste for me.  I ignore it, brush it off, and assure him I’m fine as I go back to Reddit.

15 minutes later I notice he is saying something again.

I take out my headphones to hear him.

By the way his mouth is moving and the look on his face, he doesn’t look happy.  This time he seemed VERY agitated about the way I was sitting. Apparently he thought I might be taking pictures of him with my phone, which I wasn’t.  I thought this odd considering how I was sitting and the direction I was facing.

He is now quite upset by the way I was laying down.

Again, he tells me that I am being rude.  How? My semi-open dangling legs were exposing my crotch to the Indian girl sitting several seats down and that was apparently very rude.

It was then that I realized I had been targeted.

He wasn’t going to let this go.  He was looking for a verbal confrontation and his cross-hairs had landed directly on me.

I sat up, took the initiative, and attempted to deflect and diffuse the verbal attacks.  I am a communications major after all.  Finally, perhaps I can see how well some of theories apply to real-world situations.

He’s in a half-rage mode; a strawman here and an angry passive-aggressive accusation there.  The anger and frustration in his voice is starting to build.   Conclusions and assumptions about me are landing left and right.

I’m taken back for a second. I was startled – almost confused.

What is this tumblr?  Okay, maybe that’s an exaggeration.  

Picture courtsey of
Picture courtsey of

Apparently I was some punk ass-kid/student from Chicago coming down here to get off at Libertyville station stop and I didn’t give a fuck about the other people on the train.  Perhaps it’s my “hipster look” that planted the seeds of wrath.  I prefer to think of it instead as well-groomed and well-dressed for my stature. 

I pointed out to him that NO ONE has ever objected to the way I’ve laid down before.

In fact,  it had NEVER happened before.  He was the first damn one.  I’m starting get irritated now with him and how this has all started.

He insists its a matter of being respectful. My inner philosopher ignites and I assume that he will have a post-modern framework for his concept on “respect” and as to what constitutes as my previous “rude” behavior.   I begin my philosophical adventure.

I proceeded to question him on how he knew what was “Respectful.”  He appeals to the way he was raised.  Interesting.   Apparently us young punks know nothing about respect – I secretly agree with him.

Further in the conversation reveals that he is basing his view of the concept on experience, tradition, and essentially his parents.   This actually creates in me some respect for him and it causes me to pause in my planned verbal retaliation.

I started trying to think to myself about why he was giving me such a hard time. It was a serious, “Dude, wtf?” moment of thought.   Should I stand up for myself and not put up with this crap?  Perhaps I wasn’t giving him a reason to respect me.

We were now at a point where  I suspected that other people were going to become involved as his tone of voice kept getting louder.


I wasn’t in the mood for this to escalate and as much as I enjoy uncomfortable situations, this was lacking the humorous and adventurous side  to it.  Also, I was hoping the conductors weren’t going to get involved, though I was certain they’d side with me.

No, I was going to fight my own battles.  That’s what a man does – when he can.

It was here the conversation turned.

I pointed out to him I lived in Fox Lake, I also told him about how I thought his age had nothing to do with whether I respected his opinions or not.  Living in Fox Lake meant that I wasn’t some spoiled rich yuppie from Libertyville who thinks that the world is my trash dump.

I ask a few questions meant to flush out what was bugging him – what had caused the initial simmer of suppressed rage inside him.  I knew there was more here than meant the eye.  No one flies off the handle over something so small…

Conversations like these – maybe not as heated at first as this one was – are something I live for.  They break up the routine of my day. I made the most out of this one and I’m glad I did, because I learned something. 

This fellow’s name was Jim.

I plied Jim for more about himself and he told me his back-story.   He’s a 53 year old micro-biologist who works his ass off to put his two of his three daughters through college. His marriage leaves much to be desired and “support” isn’t something he’s experienced in a while. He’s struggling financially, but fishing with his buddies at least gives him some reprieve.   Put blankly, he feels unfulfilled, confused, and somewhat jaded through life – a state of almost mental and emotional exhaustion.

Even though, my situation isn’t even close to his, I felt a kind of kinship for Jim – as man to man.   It’s no accident that I feel as I’ve met people just like him before with similar frustrations with life.

I feel a sense of sympathy for him.

During the rest of the ride and our conversation, he would apologize several times to me. Throughout the conversations, he would continue this regarding the initial assumptions he had made about me, but I told him not to worry about it.

“The past is the past,” I told him.   For the most part, that is a motto I live by.

Jim you see is a classic example of a guy going on through life who needs a chance to vent every once in a while, but doesn’t.  I don’t know if he’s ever really been given the chance, but I suspect he’s had this bottled up in him for a while.

It was the small action of the way I laid that set him off.  I had experienced my own WW1 spark in interpersonal conflict.

Jim is a good guy, but he’s been through a lot more than I would have thought.  . He tells me stories about how he’s been attacked and beat up in Fox Lake outside of bars.  Drinking sometimes has a steeper price than a hangover.

He was starting to see crime, drug deals around the Fox Lake train station and even right outside the Thortons nearby.  The realization of the scuminess of my town and that of humanity was getting to him. He emphasized that no one cared about what had happened to him or what was happening around.

That was what got me. No one cared about what he had seen, heard, and experienced so he never bothered to vent about it.    No support, he just kept it tightly wrapped and wound up.

What happened to Jim – just one action- that magnifies to a great extent the rest of what he has been feeling and seeing can happen to myself.

I literally told him when we got off the train, “There’s only so much a man can handle before he explodes.”  I’ll never forget the look on his face. It was one of gratitude and of shock in that he realized I understood him – despite our difference in age and situations.

                                    In every story and conversation there is a lesson.


All men out there need a time and a chance to vent.   This isn’t toxic masculinity; it’s the necessary expression of rage and anger that we are forced to keep a lid on.

This of course doesn’t change the fact that most men keep this rage, frustration, depression, and anger pent up.   Some have found ways to manage – the gym, 1st person shooters, sports, ect, but is it enough?  I suppose  these methods won’t get your a way that won’t get you arrested, hated, and in constant fights with your wife, but there must be more.

We all need friends – real friends – as an outlet and as support to  get things off your chest that no one else will understand or be able to hear.   Your wife, girlfriend, or effeminate therapist wont’ be able to console you in the same way that other men will.  These male friends can provide you with the wisdom that is gained from the experience of life, as well as the understanding of the vast challenges that men face in today’s culture.

They won’t BS you, but they will hear you out, and offer the necessary – if rough – advice that others won’t.  Reddit might be one way to do this, but face-to-face with close male friends is the best.  This isn’t homosexual, it’s simply men getting close with another and bonding over the challenges and quest that is life.

Get it all off your chest.

We all have pent up rage that builds. It’s a matter of fact of life. The people who explode are some how seen as terrible, immature, ect but the reality of life is that this is just a natural part of humanity.

Let it go.

Don’t be afraid to tell your friends what’s really on your mind.  Be yourself and I’m not saying that in a BS “feel good” cultural way.  Find and make close male friends who are willing to help you out and offer you solid wise advice.

Before we parted ways at the station, Jim told me he was glad the conversation happened.

I was too.

It was a raw unfiltered and genuine conversation that should happen between men more often.


Blame Baltimores Riots On Its Politicians

There are always complicated root causes behind why riots like these occur, but either people disagree about those causes and their reasons, or they simply don’t like admitting what they are.    There already have been comparisons to Ferguson, but Baltimore’s burning cityscape is the fault of those much closer to home.

Baltimore is no Ferguson. What they do share in common is arguably the issue with police abuse, harassment, ect that is encouraged and often demanded by local municipal governments that are out of control; raking every last cent out of people through taxes, fees, fines, and tickets.

In fact, let’s call a spade a spade.

More Riots Will Follow...
Victoria Bekiempis/Newsweek

Since 1967, Baltimore has been firmly controlled by democrats/liberals from the police to the schools to the ordinances.  They’ve been shaping these policies for over 40 years and should bare the responsibility for the situation that has resulted from their (1) heinous leadership, (2), inability to understand basic economics, (3) their quivering and cronyism to “certain” businesses, (4) their insistence on unaffordable city employee salaries and pensions.

The blame must be laid squarely on their shoulders.


Well, what about racism in the power structure of Baltimore?

9 of the 15 council members are black.

The state’s attorney and city council president are black.

The mayor is black.

The police chief is black.

What about the police?

“Half of the sworn command staff are minorities.”

48% of the police force currently are black.

55% of all the new applicants are minorities as well.

So racially reflecting the community doesn’t seem to be alleviating the tension here…

What about the economy in Baltimore?

Baltimore itself carries the fourth highest tax rate of any city in the nation.   (Emphasis on families who make over 150k a year and pay most of that tax.)

The poverty rate within the city is nearly 25 percent.

And its been ruled by the same people for 40+ years.    Should we still blame someone else?

So what is causing these people to be angry, devoid of opportunities, and in a state of mind to actually consider a riot?

Sputnik interviewed Baltimore local,  Antonio Willingham on Tuesday and he shed some light on the city’s rather lackluster economic reality with two important observations:

The issues run deeper than police violence in Baltimore, because the government has been closing schools and recreation centers while youth have been alienated by law enforcement officers. Police officers used to have closer ties with the young men and women in Baltimore’s neighborhoods, Willingham explained.

“We have one of the highest murder rates in the country. I do not like the black-on-black crime. They act like it is acceptable to have these guns in our neighborhoods and to target each other and kill each other.” 

Another man interviewed by BigstoryAP had similar things to say about Baltimore’s economy.

“You look around and see unemployment. Filling out job applications and being turned down because of where you live and your demographic. It’s so much bigger than the police department,” said Robert Stokes, 36, holding a broom and a dustpan on a corner where some of the looting and vandalism took place.

He added: “This place is a powder keg waiting to explode.”

 What Else?

Some have pointed to Gray’s rather extensive criminal record as one of the reasons for his death.  Regardless of his criminal record, a trial by jury should occur before execution by those in blue.   His criminal record is also all drug related, so he isn’t anymore “dangerous” then a 3rd of all the other citizens of this country who indulge in recreational drug use and sometime distribution.

  • March 20, 2015: Possession of a Controlled Dangerous Substance
  • March 13, 2015: Malicious destruction of property, second-degree assault
  • January 20, 2015: Fourth-degree burglary, trespassing
  • January 14, 2015: Possession of a controlled dangerous substance, possession of a controlled dangerous substance with intent to distribute
  • December 31, 2014: Possession of narcotics with intent to distribute
  • December 14, 2014: Possession of a controlled dangerous substance
  • August 31, 2014: Illegal gambling, trespassing
  • January 25, 2014: Possession of marijuana
  • September 28, 2013: Distribution of narcotics, unlawful possession of a controlled dangerous substance, second-degree assault, second-degree escape
  • April 13, 2012: Possession of a controlled dangerous substance with intent to distribute, unlawful possession of a controlled dangerous substance, violation of probation
  • July 16, 2008: Possession of a controlled dangerous substance, possession with intent to distribute
  • March 28, 2008: Unlawful possession of a controlled dangerous substance
  • March 14, 2008: Possession of a controlled dangerous substance with intent to manufacture and distribute
  • February 11, 2008: Unlawful possession of a controlled dangerous substance, possession of a controlled dangerous substance
  • August 29, 2007: Possession of a controlled dangerous substance with intent to distribute, violation of probation
  • August 28, 2007: Possession of marijuana
  • August 23, 2007: False statement to a peace officer, unlawful possession of a controlled dangerous substance
  • July 16, 2007: Possession of a controlled dangerous substance with intent to distribute, unlawful possession of a controlled dangerous substance (2 counts)

Well why did he have to sell drugs in the first place to survive? Blame can be leveled at the appropriate party once more – the Baltimore city government which had helped to choke the life out of economic opportunities.

You’ll recognize similar traits in other large cities in the US, often controlled by liberals such as Chicago, Detroit, New York, L.A., ect.   (This doesn’t excuse those run by conservatives either.)

– The incredible power of police unions that prevent any accountability to the local people.
– Local governments that are giving incredibly lucrative salaries to government employees which the city has to pay for.
– A vicious pushing of fees, fines, tickets, ect on any possible offenders to rake in money to pay for those government employees to offset the lack of tax dollars being generated from the cities economic plight.
– Plenty of “Got Ya!” offenses to nail people with so that they extract the above out of them. Conside the “zero tolerance policy of Baltimore’s Mayor, O’Malley  – a popular democrat who is now trying to run for President in 2016.

Remember why Eric Garner was killed in New York? He was trying to survive and make some money by selling “illegal” cigarettes on the side.   Why was that even profitable? Why are the taxes on cigarettes so high in New York?  Why was he so poor he had to resort to selling illegal cigarettes? 

Additional blame can of course be leveled at the Federal government for it’s continued part in the drug war which will lead to many more Freddie Grays.

The people of Baltimore have continually voted in politicians who perpetuate the terrible economic situations they create an environment so hopeless, that the rage and anger of a riot actually seems like a valid option.   Stefan Molyneux gives a very good background and context to past decisions in Baltimore which have led to this firestorm.

What’s even more unfortunate is what gets torched, looted, and trashed in these riots – the properties of the locals – who will not justify the misplaced targeting when their businesses are burning.

Do we even have to mention how hapless the mayor has handled the situation? How she has exacerbated the rioters and the situation?  Or essentially encouraged and excused the lootings and burnings?  No, her comments weren’t taken out of context.

Mike Cernovich, is a licensed attorney who makes some extremely important points on his legal blog, “Crime And Federalism” as to why trust in the police and their lack of accountability is so bad not just in Baltimore, but in the entire country.

1. I’ve worked on actual police misconduct litigation cases for years and am one of few people who understand Section 1983 litigation. If you don’t know what qualified immunity is and don’t get the “Scalia’s new police professionalism” inside joke, you aren’t allowed to have an opinion on my civil rights bona fides. (I’m talking to you, hashtag activists.)

2. I’ve known and spoken out about the problem of police misconduct for almost 20 years. The problem has only gotten worse and will continue to get worse until liberals question some of their deeply-held assumptions about how the world does and should work.

3. Police unions make it nearly impossible for a police force to fire a corrupt or abusive officer. The same hashtag activists posting on Twitter are pro-union. The cognitive dissonance astounds.

Also, under most police union contracts, officers themselves are not held liable for their misconduct. If an officer beats you with a baton, you sue and win, it’s the city who pays up.

4. Affirmative action, another darling of liberals, allows abusive and unqualified officers to be hired for the force, and because of unions, it’s nearly impossible to fire them.

5. Black officers are just as likely to beat a black man as a white officer is. Power is color blind, and weird things happen to people when they put on that blue uniform, pin on a shiny badge, and strap themselves with a Glock.

6. Congress could cut police misconduct in half by eliminating the judge-made doctrine of qualified immunity.

7. In fact, qualified immunity is the most important issue in civil rights cases. Anyone who is not talking about qualified immunity is a talking head who lacks serious understanding of police misconduct.

8. Qualified immunity provides  police who break the law get a free pass. This NY civil rights lawyer explain the doctrine well:

I often write about qualified immunity. This a legal doctrine that allows public defendants in civil rights cases to win the case if their objectionable actions did not violate clearly established law even if, in hindsight, the court finds that their actions were in fact illegal.

In other words, ignorance of the law is an excuse if you’re a cop. Conduct covered by qualified immunity has included using a tazer to torture a man, sodomizing a man with a police baton, and sexually assaulting a woman. 

How can police get a pass for obviously immoral conduct? Simple. Power protects power. Judges view themselves as being on the same team as police and prosecutors. 

9. If you want to reduce police abuses, petition Congress to abolish qualified immunity. Ignorance of the law is no excuse for citizens, and it should be no excuse for those who have sworn to uphold the law.

10. Police misconduct is such a problem that when I and my white civil rights lawyer friend were confronted by police, we felt our safety was in legitimate danger.

I encourage you to read his entire post for better insight into the situation this country faces.  Future riots over police killings and economic unrest in general aren’t a question of “if”, but “when”.  JustAnotherVet makes this point:

“It’s not amazing that this riot is happening in a major US city. It is amazing that riots like this aren’t happening in every major city as a response to the systematic racism, police brutality, imprisonment and overall disrespect and contempt hurled at minorities in this country”

Ignore the identity politics appeal and his becomes very valid.  So get yourself some fire-arms; you may need them to prevent yourself from either becoming another Freddie Gray or a victim of some looter who thinks he can burn down your business.

Rejecting Guilt By Association

Regardless of what mortals you follow, adore, admire, and pay homage you will at some point disagree with them.  Whether it’s most of the time or almost never, no one will ever hold exactly all the viewpoints that you have come to cherish.

A tweet from Milo Yiannapolous prompted the above line of thought in which he voices disagreement with libertarians on the NSA spying incident – color my libertarian tendencies irked.

Obviously, he is mistaken, as his his later tweet about Snowden being a traitor and not a hero.   I’m also above reproach in my conclusion. 

Today, the internet echo-chamber or “communities” as we call them is often bereft of any actual substance in discussion when it comes to disagreement over just about anything.  Dissenters are labeled “concern trolls” or just “trolls” in general.   In fact the word, “troll” has lost it’s meaning because of the abuse of the term.

Throw in “safe-spaces” and this takes on a whole new layer of people who immediately dismiss anything that comes from an opposing side.   If you make the mistake of identifying with a label that is considered “bad” or triggering, everything you say is immediately dismissed – regardless of the validity of what you say.

We need to start judging statements, comments, and opinions based on what they actually are –  the merit and validity of them – instead of who said them.    Whether they come from a radical liberal feminist or a neo-con warhawk, it shouldn’t matter; we need to reject guilt by association.

Encountering the “Other Side”

Take for example Cindy Brandt’s site/blog which I recently came across and her post, “You Don’t Need To Tell Me You Don’t Agree.”   She actually makes alot of good points, despite certain… social justice affiliations.

Well, I don’t agree.   Okay, I couldn’t resist.  Take a look at this specific observation:

“Which one of us agrees on everything with any other single person? No one! Certainly, many of us share similar passions and congregate according to common interests, it’s only human to interact with those who you resonate easily with. But if you dig deeper, or you spend enough time together, it isn’t long before one discovers there are indeed some, if not many points of disagreements with those we are in relationship with.”

As she points out, no one will  ever agree on everything, but with today’s identity politics and culture its often either all or nothing.  If someone doesn’t share enough “similar” passions, interests, and convictions,  chances are that most people won’t give anything they say the time of day.   This is more likely if they know about your “opinions” and affiliations before they evaluate what you’ve actually said.

“If we are honest with ourselves, adding the phrase is a form of social insurance. We want to protect ourselves from the risk of being associated with certain things this person represents. “

It certainly is a form of social insurance, but why?

People seem conditioned to pre-judge and make assumptions based on labels and what they “represent”, so what choice is there but to adjust? Unfortunately, this is the reality of where we are at.  It rather sucks that these qualifiers are needed, but can anyone point to topics of conversation where they aren’t?

The risk of being associated with someone who is deemed a racist, bigot, homophobe, ect or any other culturally deemed demagogues can be cause for your employment to be revoked. Consider Razib Khan who was initially hired by the New York Times, but then let go because of his “association” with right-wing publications who were deemed to be mired in racism.    So much for diversity of opinion right?

Whoever was working here must have spilled this paint...
Whoever was working here must have spilled this paint…

Shockingly, the fact that he isn’t even white was enough to save him from the wrath of social justice warriors who usually excuse certain people from terrible actions, deeds, and statements based purely on their genetics.  Another mighty journalism giant bows before Gawker and SJWs.    Apparently, all you need to do is label someone a racist enough to make them suffer the effects of today’s modern heresy.

For instance, Cindy describes herself as “social justice-y” on the side bar of her site.  GASP!

Someone, pull the alarm.   Danger is near.

  My spidey sense is tingling.

Now a large amount of people will probably dismiss anything she has to say because of the affiliation with social justice.  Don’t make that mistake; don’t fall prey to guilt by association.  I  may fall to this ever constant trap subconsciously, but then force myself to read what is actually state.  Some exceptions are made for Tumblr…

I strongly disagree with almost everything  modern day social justice folks advocate – what normal sane person wouldn’t – but I won’t necessarily dismiss something because of who is advocating it.

“We can dialogue with people as people, other human beings with different personalities, life experiences, and ideas. We can celebrate common ground without erecting walls or drawing boundary lines. We can connect without disclaimers, embracing the whole of our conversation partner along with her ideas. Let’s base our conversations with one another from a place of shared humanity instead of basing it on fear by association. “

Is this really possible? Can we connect without disclaimers? I don’t think we can.

Tales From The Online Crypt

I recently encountered and “argued” with some conservatives on TheRightScoop about the subject of police abuse.   Obviously, they deny this is a real problem.  In order to even get them to look at anything I have to say, I had to utter the following disclaimer, “I’m not a democrat…”

This is of course true, but if I didn’t point this out, said conservatives would assume I’m some sort of liberal because I disagree with one of their viewpoints.

Behold, the current state of online discourse.

If you disagree with someone on an issue you are immediately considered to be a follower of the opposing “side”.   If you disagree with some of the trash on the Huffington Post, you are a right-wing bigot, ect, ect, ect.   If you take issue with something on Breitbart you are left-wing marxist, socialist, ect, ect, ect.    Qualifiers are absolutely necessary.

“The power of association, of tribes, of communities, is so strong that we take extra measures to ensure boundaries are clearly marked, compelling us to insert disclaimers even in casual conversation. We are so fearful of being grouped with the “wrong” crowd as perceived by the person we are speaking with.

I do not think this is a healthy way to dialogue. I think it is a sign of disrespect to curate someone’s ideas, extracting it from their whole selves with all of their complexities and personhood.”

She is right; it’s not a healthy way to dialogue.   Yes, we must consider the context of a person – if that makes sense –  which is necessary to fully understand their ideas and why they have them. However, in today’s charged, “guilt by association” culture, you absolutely have to introduce qualifiers into the conversation or anything you say will be dismissed based on you supposedly are.

The need for safe spaces...
The need for safe spaces…

One popular “Debate” tactic is Godwin’s law.   To sum that up, it means that you equate a certain argument, idea, or even person to Hitler.  This of course invalidates anything they have to say.  Or does it?

Just because Hitler said something, doesn’t qualify it as being incorrect – such as his radical environmentalism, state control of “healthcare”, ect.   In fact, I’m sure almost everyone today holds some positions that Hitler advocated on economics, state control and power, and the environment.

Color me shocked.

This time-held tactic is “guilt by association/wrong by association” and is employed by disingenuous teenagers, tumblrites, and many adults who want to shout down others based on who they are, rather then what they’ve said on extremely important blogs and websites where their comments clearly make a difference.


Don’t be one of “those” people.

People who engage in daily displays on their Facebook feeds in guilt by association tactics usually have something in common;  they are angry, upset, and jaded.

Their life is a never ending stream of  un-fulfilled selfies, self-loathing, and vicious attacks on anyone who looks like they wallowed in depression for weeks upon end.   All of these bitter people online have one goal in mind; if they can’t be happy – neither can you.

Go outside of your bubble and live.

It’s been said that you can’t argue with certain people, and that is true. Argument however shouldn’t be the goal of every interaction.  You don’t need to “win”.    All you need to do is engage, discuss, and see if any new seeds are planted in either your mind or your “opponent.”   In order to any of that, you must reject guilt by association.

Perhaps, you may just develop a relationship with someone where you don’t need qualifiers, but you must take the initiative to do just that.

I encourage all to go out and have face-to-face conversations with people you know you disagree with. You will be surprised at what happens when both of you or others involved have a conversation that isn’t based on “convincing” anyone of a particular point, but is focused on the exchange of ideas and worldviews.

This is how you grow and become a more rounded individual.

 It is one of the first steps in today’s vicious culture in becoming a renaissance man.

Reject guilt by association.

Weight Loss and Caring About Your Friends

How much do you care about your friends?
How much do you care about your friends?

A friend of mine has been struggling in the dating market – to put it simply.  She wants a guy that is attracted to her, and she wants to share in that same reciprocity.   We will call her Liz.  A Facebook status about it went up.

(Disclosure: Liz had a crush on me for a long time.  Her weight was the main reason I didn’t share the same feelings.  You can’t force attraction. ) 

Now Liz isn’t exactly the most attractive girl, and the fact that she is overweight doesn’t make it any easier for her to improve this.   Most of her friends posted things like, “Oh you are sooooo pretty,” and “Guys will and/or should like you for your personality.”

I decided to be more honest, though I made sure to cushion it, “It wouldn’t hurt to lose some weight.”

Sensible advice right? Weight loss is one of the most effective ways to make yourself more attractive, assuming you are overweight.  Your 20s are a time when you should be making the most out of your looks – regardless of how limited they may be.   It is when you are at your physical prime.


Getting to a normal healthy weight?

Damnable fat shaming, body hate social media heresy.

One response involved something like, “Those people are shallow anyway, they should like you for who you are, and they wouldn’t be worth it if they don’t like you now.”

That’s flattering and to some extent is true, but it doesn’t nullify the fact that the potential dating pool of nice guys who may be interested in Liz for her personality and who she is are far and few between.   Then then throw in the percentage of “those”  nice guys who Liz is actually attracted to and the prospects are rather grim.

It is in fact a comfortable lie, but it ignores a fundamental truth; People are shallow. I’m shallow. Even those people who are not are very unlikely to give her a chance to reveal her inner beauty.

Instead of telling Liz the truth like real friends would, they continue to lie and tell her things she knows isn’t true.

As Andrew from TheRulesRevisited pointed out, in regards to a guy and his girlfriend,

“When you do these things, you are letting your girlfriend wallow in her mediocrity. If you tell your friend that she looks good when she doesn’t, she isn’t going to make an effort to look better next time”

You can boost her ego, but that won’t help her situation get any better. It also won’t promote REAL confidence.

Liz’s situation isn’t unique. It’s far more common then we realize and it means that there is a large group of people all seeking romance, but doing it with what is essentially a paper bag on their heads when compared to the more in shape parts of the population.

Basically there is an abundance of overweight people who don’t want fellow overweight people, but the slimmer more attractive folks they see in TV shows and film.   We all want a mate of the opposite sex who is more attractive then us.  (Excluding the 5% or lower of “other” sexual attractions.)

Don’t believe me?

A Large Nation-Wide Problem


Obesity and curse of being overweight have struck our society hard. Romance – or at least the possibility of finding it – is made even more difficult for a rather large percentage of the population:

  • Percent of adults age 20 years and over who are obese: 35.1% (2011-2012)
  • Percent of adults age 20 years and over who are overweight, including obesity: 69.0% (2011-2012)

Let’s not pull punches.  Being overweight and obesity has killed members on my dad’s side of the family because of things like heart disease, diabetes, and sleep apnea.   Thing is they already know about this and about how bad it is, but it’s so hard for them to lose the weight and there is a rather scary reason for it.

If we are perfectly honest, if you were overweight as a kid, it’s much harder to lose weight as an adult than it would be if you at a normal weight as a kid.

“The number of fat cells a person has is determined by late adolescence; although overweight and obese children can lose weight, they do not lose the extra fat”

What can we do with inconvenient truth?   Well, I could encourage her to “accept her body” and hope things get better.  Natural confidence right?  It won’t change the situation and it isn’t going to magically attract any “good-looking guys” to her,  but it should make her feel happy and proud about her body.

According to the body and fat acceptance crowd at Identities.Mic it will.

“The intersectional issues of size, health and weight loss are far more complicated than we’ve been led to believe, and this lack of understanding has led to weight-based discrimination becoming a serious problem across the world. Widespread anti-fat prejudice typically stems from misconceptions about health, weight and body positivity, and negatively affects millions of people every day.

People are allowed to make their own decisions regarding their own bodies, but we need to start treating people of all sizes with respect.”

Somehow, I don’t see how this is going to help these overweight people find the storybook romance they so desperately seek instead of the in-game WOW partner we are encouraging them to quest with.  Nor will it deal with the vicious health problems that will occur once you hit your 30s and later.  Note some damage is irreversible, and when that becomes the kind of body power/acceptance doesn’t seem very “feminist” to me.

Now, your life doesn’t exactly stop when you are overweight – nor should it,  but will you actually get the romance and love life you desire from the people you are attracted to?  The crew at RandolphRiot definitely seem to think so.

“Fat Fashion is all about women feeling comfortable in their own bodies no matter how big they are! This form of feminism is helping women feel empowered by their own bodies no matter how small or big the woman might be, and I believe that is an amazing accomplishment. This gives me hope!”

Hope.  It’s a big deal – for anyone. In fact without it, people have loss the will to live.  It can motivate you, but is the self-backlash worse if you realize the hope is false and/or misplaced?

“…Do you think this form of feminism can lead to the elimination of the perfect body image?”


Because people are visual creatures, and because some kind of “preferrable” standard will always exist.   We can eliminate all the current media driven standards on beauty and any words used to describe them, but culture will simply form new ones.    Why?

People are shallow.

I’m shallow.

However, most people aren’t going to wade through the unattractive waters to see if anything desirable lies beneath. Liz won’t be given the chance.  Perhaps those guys who don’t give her the chance aren’t worth it, but the guys who will?   Chances are, she isn’t going to be attracted to any of them.   I’ve seen it happen many times already.   Is there still a chance for the magical and mystical quest that is Romance?  Some fat-acceptance advocates on Psychology Today seem to think so:

“Love, sex and romance did not stop for close to a hundred million people! Let’s face it—we live in a culture that shames fat. An entire diet industry is built around that shame

We also live in a culture that shame cigarette smokers, but I suppose that doesn’t count. Well, is it shameful to encourage people to be healthier?

“The message that is being delivered in great big heaping doses is pretty simple: if you lose the weight—you will find love, romance and sex. Thin equals happy and entitlement. Fat equals broken and not worthy. What they don’t tell you is that there are plenty of unhappy thin people too. Thin is simply not the magic bullet”

She actually is right, but it will greatly increase your chances. People might actually give you a second look on Tinder before they swipe.  They might be more likely to help you out in the store – happens to me alot.  Guys might actually look directly at you for a while before looking at your friends next to you.

Is this mean?

At this point in the social justice epidemic, I can’t be bothered to care anymore if I want to continue merely drawing breath; thanks Tumblr and feminist fat acceptance screeds.   However, boosting their self-esteem by lying to them isn’t going to land them any more success in the dating market.   It doesn’t mean that they should give up and stop trying, but things could be much easier.

In case you don’t know, I’m actually a hopeless romantic.

Deep down, I want everyone to find someone to live that idea Notebook life with – that includes social justice warriors and ardent radical feminists.  I want them to experience love, romance, and that good old life that I myself desire.

Something else the manosphere has got wrong is its reaction to the fat acceptance movement and this whole “fat shaming” theory that is raging in the feminist blogosphere.   I’m not shocked that overweight obese feminists want to abort beauty standards, “cultural norms” of what is attractive, and the ideal body weight.  You would too if the men you were interested in were getting snagged by more attractive and fitter competition.

However, Fat Shaming” isn’t the answer.    If I’m brutally honest, I found ROK’s #fatshamingweek to be hysterical with some of their tweets.  Yes, I still find dark morbid jokes that deal with obesity to be funny.  (All or nothing when it comes to my take on comedy and what the limits are.)

As Mike has later realized, this does nothing to actually help, besides generating outrage, which it did very successfully.  None of that however is going to convince people to lose weight.  They already know they are overweight, and they know it is affecting them.    The hope you can provide support to the people you value in continuing to help them lose weight, exercise, and even diet.

What Can You Do?

If you really care about someone, you present them the cold harsh truth, but you are supportive in how you do it.  You are essentially giving a friendly critique, rather then a trolling criticism designed to make them feel more shitty.

Here’s a personal story that relates to my family:

My dad who was about 5 foot 7 inches and weighed over 360 pounds struggled to be able to do any exercise.   He started to rapidly gain weight when he hit about 23 and the weight just kept adding up.   Around 48, he started experiencing nausea, dizziness, feeling light-headed, and he was drinking an excess of water as he felt constantly thirsty.  He was was exhausted and never felt rested; his sleep apnea made this even worse.

A similar weight, lack of exercise, and bad diet had killed my dad’s father at only 54.  I was worried about his weight and so were my mom’s parents in particular.

What woke my dad up was finding out that he had the signs of type two diabetes.   From this point, he did everything he could to try to improve and change his diet.  He started to eat only whole foods, and avoided processed foods.  When he ate meat, it was grass-fed.  He would switch to actual raw milk.

Upon reading “Forks Over Knives” and doing a lot of his own research, he would become a Vegan for dietary reasons.  Fast forward just about two years and my dad has lost over 120 pounds.  He reversed the type 2 diabetes, has lower blood pressure than me, and has no signs of heart disease.

Just over a year into his Veganism, he started to be able to finally exercise, play floor hockey, and feel refreshed and full of energy.   (Note, I’m not a Vegan.)

That support is key.   Once you hit a certain threshold, it becomes VERY difficult to lose weight, like it was for my dad.  Often people’s jobs actively hinder exercise and our American time centered culture usually entails to many people frequently eating terribly on the run.

Often, I see many people in the fat acceptance movement promote the same kinds of lifestyles that killed my Grandpa so early as something to be embraced. It is isn’t and it rather angers and disturbs me that the movement is lying to people in the way it is.

However, that won’t blind me from the fact that it really is hard to lose weight, my dad being the anecdotal evidence.   My dad’s life didn’t come to a stop just because of his weight issues, but they were a profound barrier and hindrance to him living well, active, and actually enjoying each day.

People in the Fat Acceptance/Body Acceptance movement will stand by it, but sometimes it’s critics – myself included – overlook the efforts they put in to trying to live healthy lifestyle, being active, exercising,  losing weight, and trying to get healthier. (Diet may be the easiest approach at first.)  Instead of trashing them, we should be encouraging them.

Take for example a somewhat better known fat acceptance advocate by the name of Ragen Chastain who runs the advocacy site, “Dances With Fat”.   While we may facetiously chuckle at the title, Ragen is on the frontlines fighting the fat fight – but doing at least some of it in a healthy way.   She teaches a dance class, does some dancing herself, as well as from what I can tell some form of exercising.

Dancing is very good exercise.

She of course is a social justice advocate, member of the “fatosphere”, an ardent feminist, and she brings awareness to tumblrisms like, “Thin privilege,” in her fight against “cultural beauty norms”.  It perturbs and saddens me.  She lists more about her ideas:

As a plus-sized professional athlete, I practice Health at Every Size and as a human being I am an unwavering advocate for Size Acceptance – the civil rights truth that every body deserves respect and that the rights to life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness are inalienable, not contingent on size, health, or dis/ability.

Wait what?

The civil rights truth that everyone deserves respect…  Well,  with ideological opponents, you often have to agree to disagree.

She also promotes health at every size.   What exactly is that?  Well according to her it is:


  1. Accepting and respecting the diversity of body shapes and sizes

  2. Recognizing that health and well-being are multi-dimensional and that they include physical, social, spiritual, occupational, emotional, and intellectual aspects

  3. Promoting all aspects of health and well-being for people of all sizes

  4. Promoting eating in a manner which balances individual nutritional needs, hunger, satiety, appetite, and pleasure

  5. Promoting individually appropriate, enjoyable, life-enhancing physical activity, rather than exercise that is focused on a goal of weight loss

Well there is plenty there that I and others would point out is wrong, but instead let’s focus on what she said that she get’s right which I’ve underlined and bolded.   At least she is trying to do better and get others who struggle with weight to engage in things like, “Life-enhancing activity.”    In fact, she does actually have some decent diet and activity ideas worth checking out.

(She actually finished a 26 mile marathon in Seattle about two years ago.  For her size and weight, that’s pretty damn impressive. I haven’t even attempted a marathon that long.) 

Good for her.

Hopefully, she lives a well-fulfilled life and enjoys every moment of it to the max.  I do however suspect that if she lost some weight, her beauty wouldn’t be as obscured.  Like it or not, people are more respectful, are friendlier, and more partial to those they regard as beautiful.

Insisting that everyone is “beautiful” at every size isn’t going to magically make it so.     Reducing the word so that it means essentially nothing won’t change that either.   It will just be replaced by words like, “preference”.

That is the point.  

If you want to widen your net to include more attractive dating partners, you will have to make an effort to do the same.   This may be shallow, but it’s something that will never change – regardless of how many times social justice warriors insist that it just merely another cultural norm that must be eliminated.

Encourage your friends to widen their nets by losing weight.  Yes, you can be happy and still be overweight, but you could be so much more.

Speak up.  


Don’t be afraid.


Tell the truth.


Support them. 


Irony In Death: The Tale Of Amalaric

A few of us have heard of the mighty Alaric the Goth – more so if you’ve played Age Of Empires or Civilization – a proud proponent of the Christian heresy of the time  known as Arianism.    No, it has nothing to do with Aryans, Hitler, Nazis, ect.    It’s founder, Arius, denied the doctrine of the Trinity as well as some other ideas which today are strangely emanated by Jehovah’s Witnesses.   Apparently some ideas can stand the test of time.

Arius would die almost a SouthPark like death.  The last bowel movement he passed, resulted in quite a few organs coming out with it – including parts of his liver and organs.  His detractors would look upon his death as divine vengeance.   (Arius was also known as a rather dangerous schemer in how he acquired power)

Gaul – today known as north and eastern Spain – would be “conquered” and settled by the Goths after the fall of Rome.



Amalaric was the son of of the mighty Alaric II and would be the first Visgothic King to establish his court in Spain in the city of Seville.   Arguably, he is the first Gothic Spaniard, though the term “Spaniard” wouldn’t be really utilized for at least a few centuries.   He would continue in the Arianism of his forefathers and fellow Goths.   Amalaric however, would differ in his rule – apparently acquired through dubious means.

What made Amalaric unique as a ruler was that he revered the Sabbath, so much so that he refused to engage in battle or conduct war.  He would insist that his soldiers remain in prayer throughout the day with him.    His enemies however would not do the same.   He would be defeated in battle by the Franks and flee to Barcelona.

In the recesses of his palace, an assassin would strike him.  It would be an act of betrayal, committed by one of his own men.  He would die, but not before he gave a startling order – if the story about his death is to be believed.

Amalaric before passing away , he would insist that his murderer go unpunished and remain free and unhindered.  Well, so much for the curse with the last breath of the enemy who struck you down.



What would cause him to show this kind of forgiveness?

Amalaric would see it as justice from the hand of heaven.  He believed that heaven was in fact chastising him for the same exact crim he himself had apparently committed many years before in order to attain power.    I suppose, that’s one way to look at death.

It’s a fascinating way to take responsibility for a death inflicted on you by those who’ve betrayed you, but marks a stark difference in today’s culture – in which nothing is your fault, but everyone elses – where such a thing would be unheard of.

(His legacy would include an early example of religious tolerance by avoiding undue partiality for his own Arianism and treating the Orthodox like he did his fellow Arian brothers. )
This story is partially plagiarized from The Historians Of The World. vol X – Spain and Portugal.   Copyright Henry Williams – 1904, 1907

No Good Deed Goes Unpunished – Opinionated Man

The Beauty of An Actual Diverse Community

Opinionated Man a.k.a. Jason Cushman over at HarshReality is what one could consider a powerblogger of sorts – whatever that term even means anymore.   He actually may be addicted to blogging to the annoyance of his wife.   Over time, he has used his site to promote other WordPress bloggers as well as to promote community interaction between all of us.

In particular, his WordPress Meet & Greet threads for bloggers have been fantastic and he has featured a weekly number of “Guest Posts” written by just about anybody who has come across his site – usually commentors and people who frequent the site.

I’ve written a few guest posts and enjoyed how it let me reach a wider audience with thoughts – I’m sure other guest posters have had the same feeling.    What I now realize is just how invaluable these guests posts are.  Jason isn’t a particularly political, controversial, or culture war type of blogger – though he’s written a few controversial posts.

This has attracted a community that is actually “diverse” and not in the artificial corporate  and blogosphere buzzword sense.   Your thoughts, posts, and ideas will actually be either critiqued, analyzed, and discussed by a group of people with all sorts of opinions.

Think about how significant and rare that it is.

Most blogging communities are echo-chambers in and of to themselves.  Dissenting commentors are labeled trolls and anyone who critiques the groupthink just a bit too much is ousted.  Actual dialogue is usually impossible because of the way dissenting opinions and the people who express them handle the internet.

This results in “safe-spaces” that are subconsciously and indirectly created – often through disabling comments all together or moderating them to an extreme fashion that the only people who frequent are the one’s who agree with essentially everything that is said.

These communities then usually rehash the same sort of crap.  Once in a while, they say something crazy enough to go viral to get page-clicks, and then go back to the intellectual and conversation deprived vacuum.    HarshReality’s community allowed you to actually talk with people outside of the usual echo-chambers and that is becoming harder and harder every day.

Places Where The Best Conversations Occur...
Places Where The Best Conversations Occur…

Something I noticed a few months back was that most of the conversations that took place – even where there was noticeable disagreements – were very amiable.  Jason isn’t big on censorship and comment moderation – so that makes the level of cordial discussion that too place even more surprising.

We may be about to miss that.

Well, Jason’s good deed of promoting and enabling a community was taken advantage of – possibly by a detractor – though we may never know.  Someone used his “Guest Post” feature to post “stolen” material.  I’m still not sure if it was copyrighted or not, but it did get attention and a warning from WordPress:


As the individual who agreed to the Terms of Service contract when activating WordAds, you are responsible for all content posted on your blog and subsequent Terms of Service violations.

It is far more than just those three. From the notes left by the investigators, I’d say probably the entire Guest Blogger Posts category is suspect.

The investigators re-evaluate rejected applications monthly. If they find absolutely no copied content after a much more thorough re-evaluation, they may re-approve your application. If they find even more copied content, they will likely permanently ban your application.



Now Jason’s  guest post system worked pretty well.   Bloggers who wanted to create a guest post would email him, he would briefly check it, and then post it later in the day.   Pretty simple and effective.

Perhaps maybe too simple, but time constraints are a thing and Jason often posted things by his phone and WP’s format isn’t exactly the greatest via cell phone.  For now, these are Jason’s parting words:

“I talk to everyone via email before they guest blog. I am not sure how what happened, happened… but either way it did. I got played.

My wife wants me to stop blogging. I have considered it. I don’t make a lot of money at my normal 40 hour job and blogging was my release… and possibly a way to chase a dream. Perhaps writing will need to take a rain check for now.

Be careful out there. HarsH ReaLiTy will be closed for a bit. Enjoy the articles, that were ALL written by me, and the free promotional posts.

Jason C. Cushman

-Opinionated Man”

If Jason does leave us, who will pick up his mantle? I don’t have alot of hope, but you never know.  One thing is for sure – they can’t be a control freak on a power trip – which limits our options on the internet severely.

Mandatory Church Attendance? Or Just Misleading Clickbait?

Another day, another sensationalist story and headline too good to be true.  With headlines like, “Arizona Lawmaker: Church Attendance Should Be Mandatory,” social media feeds burst with anger, vitriol, and waxed lyrically about the necessity of Church and State and the insane and theocratic idea that is mandatory church attendance…

Someone Suggested This ?!?!?! Not quite...
Someone Suggested This ?!?!?!
Not quite…

Except that context of this entire faux outrage is crucial, but inconvenient in how it gets in the way of relaying the full picture about mandatory “church attendance”.   It is of course very easy to believe the worst about people’s whose politics you don’t like.

During a committee with lawmakers in Arizona about gun control – specifically conceal and carry, state senator Sylvia Allen made some of the following comments that need to be seen for context:

‘“I believe what’s happening to our country is that there’s a moral erosion of the soul of America,” Allen said.’

‘Allen said more people may feel the need to carry weapons if a “moral rebirth” doesn’t occur in America.’

Notice that she is talking about the moral problems that are causing people to feel that they need to carry weapons.  She also points out that our erosion of religion is causing the problem – she is trying to go to the root of what she believes to be the problem – the sad state of morality in our nation.

“It’s the soul that is corrupt. How we get back to a moral rebirth I don’t know. Since we are slowly eroding religion at every opportunity that we have. Probably we should be debating a bill requiring every American to attend a church of their choice on Sunday to see if we can get back to having a moral rebirth…”


A vicious statement endorsing the violation of separation of church and state right?  Cue the twitter mobs,  Facebook notifications,  and maybe even the remnants of Atheism Plus to extract judgement. for this backwards Bible thumper.

Well, what does she say next?

“But since that would not be allowed and we would not even be debating that, I’m going to vote yes that people who are responsible who have a CCW permit don’t have to worry about their guns as they’re out and about and doing business in whatever building they’re in except ones that where they aren’t allowed,” Allen went on to say.”

She used hyperbole – or specifically an extreme to make a point, something that we all do in any honest conversation, because its far easier for people to understand extreme on a subject like gun control.

That didn’t stop 5NewsOnline from tossing out this Gawker like headline gem, “Arizona Sen. Files Bill To Make Church Attendance Mandatory.”   Except, yet again, there was no bill filed. There wasn’t even a serious suggestion.  Or was there?

She Filed A Bill To Do What????
She Filed A Bill To Do What????

Skepticism Of The Headlines?

The blogosphere for the most part didn’t get it either. SkepticJourney ironically forgot to be skeptical in his thoughts and/or examination of the entire story and MindfulDigressions wasn’t particularly mindful in a thorough expose of her comments in which he appeared to have noticed the context, but still missed the significance of it.

Neither did Bozosphere or TangoFoxTrot who didn’t bother to give the story a closer look.   Let’s not forget Commodore 1864, who just added this as a nother notch to the nutcases a.k.a. people he doesn’t agree with.   Nutspov may have understood the hyperbole, but I don’t think that’s because of developed skepticism of sensationalist news, but because it was pounced upon by left-wing outlets.

SeeingRedAz might have been the only guy who actually noticed her point in his justified criticism of Arizona Republic:

“State Sen. Sylvia Allen never called for “mandatory church attendance” though the newspaper wishes she had”

Facts. Those aren’t important.  I actually would have thought that people  would understand the extreme idea of mandatory and compulsory church attendance.  She noted that it wouldn’t even be allowed, which is obviously clear.  As one commentor put it:

“She was saying it was not possible to legislate church attendance even though it might help stem the moral erosion in America. The context was — since we can’t turn the tide of moral decay that she would vote yes for people have CCW licenses to carry and protect themselves in public places where it is legal. The headline is deceiving and the Farley was exploiting the comment by taking it out of context. What else is new in politics?

Indeed.   Context was deliberately ignored for this video as well, but who cares right?   It’s free traffic and is convenient to the narrative that a certain group likes to push.

Dem. Senator Steve Farley however was certainly going to ingeniously seize upon this “opportunity” to score some political points, regardless of the context or the point she was making.    This is why we can’t have nice things in politics – like open honest dialogue – because people are more interested in it making a sound byte then tackling issues the nation faces.

She was shocked that her comments would have been considered “controversial”.  They aren’t, if we bother to look at the context and her actual point, but social media feeds don’t bother with context.

There will never be conversations about “racism” which so many on the left lament the lack of “honest race dialogue”, when any attempt to actually be real and discuss it will be taken out of context for political gain.    If  it can happen with something like hyperbole regarding mandatory church attendance, then imagine the backlash on an “out-of-context” statement about race.  It could and would be far worse in that companies care about their PR images, not if what was said was actually racist or if the person is a racist.  Behold the fate of “truth on the internet.”

If I’m honest this faux outrage has caused me to give the “Obama called for mandatory voting” story much more scrutiny, because as I watched the video again,  he appeared to lament that enough people don’t vote – not propose any actual legislation about “mandatory voting”.   (Interesting critique here from HuffPo)

Is this an example of Obama simply trying to have an honest open talk that is yet once subjected to the merciless out-of-context machine that is internet journalism?

I’ve discussed the idea myself before, but I haven’t had to worry about someone tweeting it for the world to see.  Note, my libertarian views don’t allow for “mandatory voting”, but I’ve used the concept to make a point. Maybe the president was doing the same.

Congratulations, you’ve all been “Fox News’d”  and I know that really hurts.

A Glossary For Social Justice Warrior Speak

Milo Yiannopoulos over at the extremely biased right wing outlet Breitbart has come up with a very good Lexicon that translates what social justice warriors and a very prominent breed of progressives mean when they throw out concepts like, “harassment”, “safe-space,” ect.

A Guide For The Privileged Oppresor
A Guide For The Privileged Oppresor

Also included are translations from commentors after many late night secessions spent studying ancient progressive cuneiform and pictographs.  Their work is now published for the benefit of your education as you interact with SJWs online in your quest to better understand how you are a terrible privileged person deserving death or at least a stint in a gender studies re-education program.

From A- Z , enjoy you, “phallocentric, dogmatic, misogynistic, homophobic, anti-LBGT bastard(s).”

Ableism – The unfortunate biological reality that some people are bigger and stronger than others.

Abuse – Tweets.

Ageism – The internalised misogyny of Mother Nature.

Ally –White slave.

Capitalism Something I hate but allows me to live my privileged lifestyle.

Consent – How many times should I have to explain this to you it’s simple here is my latest 9 part essay on consent.

Criminal – Straight white male.

Critical theory –Horseshit

Death threats – Mean tweets.

Debunked“We will not accept this as an argument and will not cite any sources to any sort of debunking. This is the word we use to hand-wave your claims away”

Dogpiling – More than one person disagreeing with me on Twitter.

Dominant culture –The stuff people actually like. Not to be confused with taxpayer-funded lesbian performance art, which would surely break all Box Office records if only more people got to see it

Equality – Used to mean giving everyone a fair chance; now means enforcing 50-50 quotas in jobs women don’t want to do in order to punish men for being good at maths and physics

Evidence  Is considered harassment and you are therefore blocked.

Feminism –Misandry masquerading as a fight against oppression and prejudice on the basis of sex; what unattractive men and women do to get attention

Freedom/Liberty – The freedom for me not to have to pay for my own birth control.

Gender – A word the general public doesn’t really understand. Used to defend feminists who prefer shot-putting to ballroom dancing and to pretend that this is normal and that they have every chance of some day finding a boyfriend

Genital mutilation – Disgusting crime, they should be sent to prison  chad was circumcised and it looked nice so why aren’t you, don’t you love me?

Glass ceiling – My career isn’t doing as well as I think it should be, because I’m an insufferable, hateful, jealous bore, and I am looking for someone to blame

Harmful “Might cause people to disagree with The Narrative”

Intersectionality – A debate strategy: when you’re losing an argument about feminism, call your opponent racist or, even more damningly, capitalist.

Heterosexism –The awkward reality that most people aren’t gay. Can be remedied with the proper social conditioning.

Known – Has been repeated in SJW circles enough for us to recognize it as fact, lack of evidence be damned.

LGBT – Gays and lezzers

LGBTIQQAA – Ugh, even we have no idea.

Male Gaze  Men not being blind makes me angry.

Male Power Fantasy  Way to disprove arguments that disprove my arguments.

Manslamming – I launched myself at an unsuspecting member of the public while yelling “SEE, PATRIARCHY!” and sadly he didn’t have time to dodge out of the way so we both went down

Mansplaining –See ‘misogyny’

Manspreading –What about my fucking handbag?

Marginalized – A writer insufficiently talented to attract attention on his or her own merits, forced to resort to identity politics

Microaggressions – Imaginary slights, to be conjured in the absence of genuine grievance

Misogyny – I am woman who got beaten by a man in an argument and I’m pissed

MRA – Man who is beating me in an argument and who I don’t like. 

Oppression – I failed the interview

Patriarchy – A word to use when you don’t get your own way, however unreasonable your statements or demands. See also: “Waaaaaaaaaah!”, “IT’S NOT FAIR!”, “Dad, I hate you!”

Patreon – A monthly donation website; the internet equivalent of a begging bowl in the subway. Best utilised after an extensive press tour in which you complain about “threats” and “abuse” (q.v.) following your vital work (blog posts whining about structural heteropatriarchal capitalist oppression), whether or not you are able to provide evidence of said threats. (Journalists won’t care either way.) Gullible halfwits and men desperate for sex will donate money to you to prove they’re “not all like that” and in the hope of a hand job

Persecution – Someone commented on my blog post

Police report – What to say when you’re losing an argument to scare an interlocutor into silence

Positive discrimination – A form of discrimination only acceptable to be practiced by non white male people in order to enable privileges for mediocre, uninteresting and unsuccessful people.

Prejudice – Some people have opinions that aren’t ours. These can be stamped out or silenced with enough grievance-mongering and intimidation on Twitter

Privilege – What white middle-class feminists have and their victims don’t

Problematic – I can probably spin a blog post out of this

Rape culture – Does not exist

Rape – Sexual intercourse without prior written permission or things I don’t really like.

Rape threats –Very mean tweets

Safe space – A blog with the comments turned off

Sealioning – Someone asking me a question I don’t have an answer for or when someone dares to ask a question and fails to “Listen And Believe” 

Sex – Best avoided

Sexual Assault – Eye contact without consent.

Silenced – A feminist who has been disagreed with who is currently arranging television and radio interviews

Social justice – Bullying

State Education – Government sponsored social Marxist brainwashing to generate compliant and passive taxpayers.

System of oppression – More than one person disagreed with me on the internet.

Transgender – A psychiatric disorder reimagined as a “civil rights issue” because we’ve literally run out of things to complain about.

Transphobia – When men refuse to castrate themselves and when one is disagreeing on anything with a trans person.

Triggered – How college students avoid homework

Victim – Apparently a helpless  woman who enjoys being shagged while she is drunk and can’t think for herself. 

Victim Blaming – When shitlords ask me to cover up my tits when I’m trying to protest in a cathedral.

Violence – Things I don’t like. 

Wage gap – A useful bit of mythology, to be repeated at all times so no one notices that actually women under 30 earn more than men for the same work

“____-shaming” – Used to deflect any sort of criticism over taking responsibility for one’s actions.


 Concerning Milo, he is worthy of high praise for this list.

“He’s the Alexander the Great of the anti-sjw movement and I salute him as a fine leader indeed.”

P.S. – Comments? Questions? Suggestions? Deaththreats?
Anything to add to this and/or change?