Why Feminism Won’t Liberate Men Sexually

I had the fortune of finding an article posted about 4 weeks ago on “We Hunted The Mammoth” in which the sites owner and noted male feminist – David Futrelle – promoted an article on The New Statesmen about how liberating men sexually would bring about an end to the problems women face concerning sexism.

Liberation usually sounds like a phenomenal idea.  Well, what kind of liberation is the the author – a dominatrix by trade named Margaret Corvid  – talking about?

Let’s get started.  There are plenty of anticipated attacks on MRA’s, the manosphere, and the ever present Patriarchy.   Before we go any further, she makes a very important point about feminism and how it relates to men.

“As feminists, we rightfully put the interests of women first, and we are skeptical of ostensibly feminist arguments that appeal to men’s interests.”

Straight from the horses mouth.  It’s statements like this that should convince anyone with a pair of testicles that any men’s issues the feminist movement claims to advocate for are at most lip service.   When it comes to the lip service, she barely even does that with her suggested feminist skepticism of anything that appeals to “men’s interests.”

The sexual liberation she talks about later will specifically not appeal to the interest of most men in the general population.  Throughout this piece she implies, but never explicit states this idea that men should be vulnerable during sex.   However, the kind of vulnerability she refers to is that of men being dominated or “penetrated”.

“He is allowed to penetrate, but not to be penetrated; to control, but not to surrender; to enjoy the grace, sensuality, and sex appeal of a woman, but never to wish to express these traits himself.”

 

Mommy Time.

 

Okay, fine.  What disturbs me is that she continually suggests that men who don’t enjoy or being dominated are somehow suppressing their full sexuality.   Perhaps its not fear preventing an embrace of this kind of sexuality,  but rather a majority of men who really don’t want anything put up their ass.

Even now, what feminism asks of men – that they be conscious of their privilege and respect the agency of women – can lead them to truly satisfying intimate relationships.

Notice how she mentions that being aware of privilege and “respecting the agency of women” whatever that actually means and/or exactly how one goes about that somehow equates to satisfying intimate relationships. 

Think about that.  Since when has checking, being aware, and acknowledging, one’s privilege automatically translated to successful intimacy in relationships?  Acknowledging your male privilege isn’t going to get your wife or girl-friend to put out more.  It’s not going to land you any dates.

In fact, I would suggest that “privileged” checking in front of women for well intentioned reasons of modern SJWs communicate a lack of confidence and assertiveness.   It is the equivalent of undermining yourself – which essentially destroys your chances of landing that date.

Later she makes a similar claim in the ending to this piece:

“For men, a true feminism offers liberation and sexual fulfillment, through the very process of coming to a fuller understanding of their privileges, and burdens, under patriarchy. “

Quite an assumption.  Again, how?  Having a full and thorough understanding of your burdens doesn’t translate to liberation and/or sexual fulfillment.

“We may not be able to reach the most hateful misogynists, but feminists must directly attack the false ideology of men’s rights. We must offer a real answer for men consumed by anxiety, and especially those who feel a sense of sexual frustration.

Yet again, I don’t think the answer to sexual frustration for many men is being dominated and/or having things shoved up their ass.    Being dominated by a dominatrix might appeal to a small segment of the male population, but what about the rest of us?

“It is feminism that offers men the chance at a sexually fulfilling life. When rape culture is extinguished, when patriarchy subsides, all genders can realize their full sexual expression in safety.”

Checking our privilege and patriarchal burdens doesn’t seem to give us a clear picture and game-plan for improving our sex lives if it doesn’t involve anal penetration by a foreign object.  Being forced to rain in our “toxic masculinity” in concern to our sexuality as feminism demands also doesn’t seem to sound like a fulfilling proposition.

I’ll make a brave and shocking assertion; a fulfilling sex life for men can’t be achieved by concentrating specifically on the issues of women and ignoring those of men which today’s radical feminists seem to do quite often.

 

 

 

Why Living Like A Villain Is Shallow

The False Allure Of Villainy

Recently, I’ve stumbled across several articles and posts dedicated to the benefits of living like a villain and why we should consider it.   There were three main points the writer made in the article, Why You Should Live Life Like A Villain, on ROK:

– Villains live more fulfilling lives than heroes.

– Villains command much more respect than heroes.

– The hero never gets the girl while the villain is always up to his eyebrows in pussy.

So essentially, you have to sell your soul if you want to get the girl and enjoy life.  I firmly disagree with this.  On our deathbeds, do we really want to have lived a life that deep down we were ashamed of?   No, I am not encouraging you to be a White Knight.   In fact, refusing to be an asshole doesn’t automatically mean the only alternative to that is “White Knighting.”

Don’t get me wrong, because I actually see his point. Yes, the bastards/assholes get laid and the nice-guys flounder in the wind. This is why it might be necessary to invoke just a bit of your inner asshole to get your foot in the door to meeting a girl you are actually interested in.  However, do you want to be an asshole for you entire life?  In marriage, work, friends, life?

Becoming What You Hate

Notice one of the core tenants of becoming a villain: Being an asshole. The kind of women who are attracted to “bad boys” are likely not LTR material and certainly aren’t marriage material. They might be good for a one night stand, but you will never be able to be “bad enough” before it catches up with you – either legally or through isolating your friends and family – in the long run.

What makes a “bad boy” or an asshole? Let’s think about it for a second. Knowing exactly what you want in a relationship and when to move on doesn’t make you an asshole, rather it makes you carefully think through what you are seeking for in any relationship – including all of the pros and cons.   Mike Cernovich makes this point about becoming “Alpha”:

I’d never hate on a  man who went monogamous. Being alpha is about getting what you want. If you’re in a relationship that makes you happy, good for you.

If you are looking for a romantic relationship with a girl who only is interested in being your friend, move on immediately as you will be disappointed.

Jen Kim in an article in Psychology Today wrote a response article to, “Do Assholes Really Finish First? asking, “Do Girls Really Love Assholes?”

SBK writes: “Bad boys tend to have lots of positive traits that come along for the ride of the badness such as good looks, confidence, creativity, humor, charisma, high energy, and good social skills— all things women find attractive.”

He also found that for men “one striking direct path to mating success stood out… low agreeableness; the lower the agreeableness, the more sexual partners.”

If there is anything TRP has taught me, it’s that confidence is the most important thing anyone can have and that there is a difference between being an asshole and having confidence.   It is often “confidence” – more on this later – which helps to create all the “asshole” attributes mentioned in the quote above.  The article “Do Assholes Really Finish First?” went into some detail about the success of Tucker Max, who has been able to make a name and a prosperous living off his tales of being an asshole.

He Eventually Destroyed His Entire Life

However, it seems the shallowness of being an asshole as burnt him out. He literally is doing a form of penance with a reverse pendulum swing to his new site, “Mating Grounds” which is essentially a politically correct tip site on dating advice that we all know doesn’t work too well.   Being an asshole however, did burn him out as he points out when he finally came back “online” after years of hiatus:

I was a ridiculous narcissist in my twenties. It’s not even that I didn’t care about other people. It’s way beyond that. I just didn’t even understand that other people even existed or mattered. I do not believe I was a true NPD [narcissistic personality disorder] in the clinical sense. But, dude, I was close.“I ended up hurting a lot of people and not even realizing it. Because of that narcissism, I didn’t connect well to other people. I used a lot of people a lot of times, in ways I didn’t understand.

Separating Confidence From Assholes

The reason why people aspire to be “assholes” is that they don’t realize it is the confidence that assholes have that enables them to be successful with women and other endeavor in their lives.  Assholes often show signs of being willing to take risks, being brave, and having ambition. For some reason however, people forget that they can be all of these things – an develop all of those traits in the quote mentioned above – without actually being an asshole.

Let’s face it; assholes are often shallow people.  They become the narcissists that we despise.  One reason so many of us rightfully dislike feminism is because it turns people into “victims” in which everything is about them and is the fault of somebody else.  These people continually attempt to “out-victim” each other and get enraged when you refuse to accept their bullshit.

They get what they want through manipulation and bullying other people – often via social media and political pressure – into going along with what they want.  We rightfully condemn these assholes for what they are.  Do we really want to become like them and become serial manipulators obsessed with only ourselves first?

Enjoying Life: Transcending Pleasure And Money

We all want to enjoy life.  We NEED other people around and with us to do exactly that. Like it or not, it is other humans – that unique component to life – that make it worth living.

If you want to attract girls and be someone who other men want to be around, become a man.   Act like a man. Develop a character that bursts from the seams with masculinity.    Make sure they can see it through what your actions and what you say.  This is where a lot of confusion has taken place in what society – specifically Social Justice Warriors and feminists have defined as being an asshole.  Ignore the repugnant nonsense they spew about what makes an asshole, especially considering that this exactly what they have turned into themselves.

Despite what feminists say about what is “toxic masculinity” in men and how it equates to being an asshole, I encourage all of us to be men and to let our masculinity pour from every fiber of your being.   Their definition of toxic masculinity is often exactly what men should strive to become. Never forget that.

You don’t have to be a boy scout for the sake of others. You do however want to be a man of courage, honor, and integrity because it is a masculine virtue that will improve your life.  It will build up networks of real friends who can become like a second family.  The key concept there is “Real Friends”, something which is non-existent for assholes whose “friends” amount to people dedicated to using and manipulating each other.

It will help you to see through the bullshit of the deceitful and at the same time let others see you for the real man that you are.  People want to be around men who are actually courageous and honorable.  Real virtues are something that the epic heroes of history have aspired to and they attracted the sort of motivated, ambitious, and honorable companions that we all at our very core desire.

Yes, we can romanticize “heroes” to the point of a fantasy that serves no purpose toward improving ourselves and our character.   Will aspiring to be a villain as a replacement construct any better of a fantasy? Do any of us – hero or villain – really want to die alone?

Being a villain – specifically one who is an asshole and a narcissist is shallow as people will eventually see you for what you are; a man whose narcissism which will eventually destroy himself.  It’s like getting credit card debt.  You can spend all the money you want now, but later you will still have to pay the piper, most likely with interest.   It may be “easy” and profitable in the short-term, but it will have negative consequences in the long-run.  Perhaps those may never actually be financially, but living with yourself and the destruction of your soul will take their own toll.

Go ahead and lie to yourself about how satisfying it supposedly make your life.  If we are actually honest with ourselves, we full well know deep down that there is so much more to a fulfilling and enjoyable life then the supposed romantic allure of “living like a villain”.   Real life satisfaction comes from becoming a man and living like one.

 

 

In Remembrance: Opinionated Man

Opinionated Man a.k.a Jason Cushman recently had the unfortunate experience of being told by WordPress that “mass following” – which literally can include simply following too many people back – is now a WordPress crime under the “spam” category.    We all hate spam, but this is a curious redefinition and it changes how the game is played right in the middle of it.

It’s kind of like playing a game with an older brother that suddenly tells you about a new rule in the game that you didn’t know about, but it benefits him alot.  You check out the rulebook and its apparently there.

It grabs your attention doesn’t it?

 
Except in this case, there are A LOT of rules.  Often these Terms Of Service agreements and the subsequent rules that follow are substantial.  It’s often hard to realize you’ve broken a rule, simply because there are so many of them.  It allows WordPress to play a kind of “Gotcha!” game.   This was a moderator’s official explanation:

The follow feature was intended to help you read blogs that you enjoy, not as a means of promotion. Our automated systems may interfere with behavior that looks more like a spam bot than a human.

I find this explanation puzzling, considering that following someone is a means of promotion. It’s not exactly the same thing as “sharing” a post and/or blog would be via social media and other means, but it is promotional.

I suppose there is only so much a blogger can take, and Cushman has decided that his number is up.  Harsh Reality will now be going “Private“. I’m not exactly sure what that means and the exact impact of it, but being the genius that I’m not, even I know it’s not good.

HarsH ReaLiTy will go “private” next week. I will keep the domain since it is worth money and will decide what to do with the site later. I appreciate all the support, but please just let it go. No reason for other sites to get flagged or banned because of my little blog. Take care WP and I have enjoyed the past two years.

If you have articles you have shared on this website please copy and grab them before the 7 days is up. Thanks.

Jason C. Cushman

 

To myself, this is a dastardly and unexpected blow.  One of the primary reasons I continued to blog and started to enjoy it was encountering Harsh Reality.

I can still recall the first time I stumbled on his site and read the header and thought to myself, “Someone who wants to offend everyone at least once!”   In today’s day and age of internet activists who exist in their own bubbles, it’s alot easier to offend people than you would think, but can also be alot more costly, especially if the ensuing twitter lynch mobs have their way.  It’s why I appreciated Jason’s balls – (That is going to look interesting out of context.) – a lot more then most might.   Hopefully, OM stick’s around, but perhaps… just perhaps, he needs a bit of a break.

Here’s to Jason:

Your thoughts and insight are appreciated.

A Review: Opinionated Man – Harsh Reality

Jason Cushman is a proud Asian man who literally doesn’t give a fuck. In his own words:

“My goal with this blog is to offend everyone in the world at least once with my words… so no one has a reason to have a heightened sense of themselves. We are all ignorant, we are all found wanting, we are all bad people sometimes.”

He posts what he feels, when he wants, and in a very unique style in the blogging community. It is the primary reason why he stands out – his blogging style is specifically his own.

His blog, Harsh Reality, directly encourages bloggers to consistently interact with each other and he frequently features guest posts by other bloggers to promote this ambition.   His, “WordPress Meet and Greet” is another example of attempting to get bloggers to actually interact with each other and based on the feedback he has gotten, I’d say its been very successful.

The most important message I have seen reflected from Cushman is admonishing of fellow bloggers to carve out their own unique style.   If you desire an actual breath of fresh air and a writing style that you won’t see elsewhere, his blog is a must follow. (I’ve been following him for several months now.)

Let’s get real. In today’s blogging world, many bloggers are still very afraid from posting what they actually think because of possible backlash from dissident opinions.  Jason doesn’t care and he shouldn’t.  Disagreements are an inevitable part of daily life and that is manifested to even more of an extent online and in the blogging world.   Remember, life goes on. 
Usually there is very little moderation on his blog in a direct attempt to promote feedback – something I applaud.  State your piece, and he will state his.   One of my personal favorites is, “Women are Crazy (The way to lose your female readers)” .   The original post of it had over 2k comments.  It’s yet again evidence that when it comes to blogging, all publicity is good publicity.

I highly suggest his blog for people who are looking to improve their own as he won’t bullshit you with “easy steps”.  There is no shortcut for the time investment and gradual building of your blogging network – something he has repeatedly pointed out.

A quick golden rule for bloggers: Don’t spam and selfishly promote on others blogs if you wouldn’t approve of it happening on your own.  Opinionated Man’s, “WordPress Meet and Greet” however is an opportunity for all of us to self-promote in the right way. Try it some time.

Toddlers, Perspective, Drugs, and Flashbanging Swat Raids.

My family is a diverse  and divided one, and I love it.  Not just racially, but politically and on all those “controversial” issues which you aren’t supposed to bring up at the dinner table at family parties.  Well I’m a true rebel and I bring up that crap anyway.  So I somewhat… started up a huge debate on gun control with my family. (My aunt for a while was of the opinion that we didn’t need guns because the cops would always be there in time to protect people. Note I live about 50 minutes from Chicago.)

It ended up in everyone shouting, my Uncle putting my Aunt in an armlock, my Uncle yelling at my Grandpa for bailing him out of jail – I didn’t even know that happened – my Dad yelling about my Aunt being a cop and it distorting her perspective. It literally looked like something out of a movie.  Wait.  Right there, that magic word – Perspective.

Me and my Dad both hold rather “anti-cop” views – according to cops that is on PoliceOne – the site where if a cop blows up kittens on public television – the use of that force must somehow be justified.  My aunt is a cop and tends to view things from their point-of-view, even if the video evidence is pretty damning. She points out that there are always two sides to the story. I’m not sure what other “sides” to the story there can be in some of the headlines over the years that I have seen – and the one’s I’ll list are just three out of the hundreds.  So just for background:

1. The Kelly Thomas beatdown – that homeless man in Seattle who they literally beat to death as he called for his dad for over 10 minutes.  Seriously, watch the video. It’s sickening and disturbing. I’m EXTREMELY manly, but it made me cry.  Image

2. A “no knock” recent swat raid on a house in Georgia where they “suspected” drugs were located. It’s “unclear” whether they found drugs or not – That means they did not – but they did throw a flashbang in the house that melted off part of the face of a two year old toddler, burned a hole in his chest, and now has him in a coma.  It reads like something out of a movie where everything goes wrong for a family, but the video of the kid really shows how – fucked up – this really is.

3. An 80 year-old man killed in his own bed in a swat raid where the police were looking for Meth. They didn’t find any and were forced to change their story after bloodstains in the man’s bed indicated that he had been sleeping.  “Put the gun down!” apparently was shouted after the six shots were fired… not before.  What side could the deputy who pulled the trigger have to justify his actions?

Sidenote: Below, courtesy of Cato is a map of many botched Swat Raids. It should trouble you. Their site has the “interactive” map for you to scour through.

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I list those three examples specifically because of the perspective on the other end toward what happened.  The perspective of the district attorney and the GBI (George Bureau of Investigation) emphasized by the County Sheriff (Terrell) on the injured Toddler story mentioned above blew my mind.

“I’ve talked to the D.A., I’ve talked to the GBI,” Terrell said. “I’ve given them the whole information and they say there’s nothing else we can do. There’s nothing to investigate, there’s nothing to look at. Given the information given, GBI’s SWAT team would have done the exact same thing – they’d have used the exact same scenario to enter the house.”

As Radley Balko points out in his article on the Washington Post about this story and the SWAT policy for raids:

If your drug cops conduct a raid that ends up putting a child in the hospital with critical burns, and they did nothing that violates your department’s policy, then there’s something wrong with your policy.

However, I’ve seen cops defend this burned toddler pointing to the perspective of the SWAT team, notably at the fore-mentioned PoliceOne facebook page where what I assume is mostly officers exchange stories of “winning”. Note some of these perspectives:

  • “As sad as this is this is not the fault of the Police. The scum bag mother is to blame here.”
  • “WOW, REALLY? I CAN’T BELIEVE THE NUMBER OF “SO CALLED” OFFICERS ON THIS THREAD THAT ARE BLAMING THE POLICE ON THIS ISSUE! DID YOU READ THE ARTICLE?  THIS WAS NOT THE INJURED CHILD’S HOME. THE FAMILY WAS VISITING FROM OUT OF TOWN. THE PROBLEM IS THEY WERE SLEEPING IN A DRUG PUSHER’S HOME!!!!SAD, YES, NO DOUBT ABOUT IT. THE CHILD SUFFERED FOR HIS PARENTS STUPIDITY. DON’T BLAME THE OFFICERS WHEN THE RESPONSIBILITY LIES WITH THE ADULT PARENTS IN THIS SITUATION!” –   (What is this Tumblr with the all caps?)
  •  “They did nothing wrong. Don’t take a infant to a drug house and this would not happen.”
  • ” Here’s an idea. Don’t sell drugs and cops won’t throw flashbangs into your house.”
  • “Dont commit crimes and things like this wont happen…..yeah blame the police for doing their jobs arresting POS criminals. This is the families fault this baby is injured. NOT the police.”
  • “Meanwhile, keeping a toddler in the home of violent felons, meth labs, dangerous criminals walking in and out on a daily basis high on dope, and complete disregsrd for any care for a toddler is ignored. Charge the parents an extra felony for the innocent childs suffering.”

The Facebook posts to the article go on and on.  What’s fascinating is that the drug fiend they were looking for was the husband’s brother who didn’t even live there, nor was there at the time when the raid occurred.  Essentially, we all better hope that none of our friends or family does, partakes, deals, ect – with or without your knowledge – and come’s back home for Thanksgiving because a SWAT team could bust through the door and toss military grade hardware your way.

What this all boils down to is that no matter who gets hurt, the cops they will justify whatever happens because from their perspective, it appears to be us vs. them; they are first and we are a distant second.  I love my Aunt dearly, but she said something that has disturbed me in conversations over things of this nature, “I will do whatever I need to do get back home safe to my family.”  I understand that, but imagine all the other cops who think like this. I hope I’m not deemed an obstacle to said safety from their perspective.

I don’t have a particular vendetta, even though my aunt believes I do. I have no criminal record, though I am still perturbed at some of the bullshit traffic tickets I’ve gotten. I won’t pretend to say I don’t have a bias, but when I see injustice like this excused it angers me. When a toddler has part of his face burnt off, a hole in his chest, and is in a coma in what is essentially an appeal to “safety” for the SWAT team by flashbanging without knocking or investigating to see if children were present, we have a deep problem.

Seriously. Justify it. I dare you. Look at it from “their perspective” and justify the botched raids and what happened to people like Kelly Thomas.  Even if “use of force” is/was justified, their deaths certainly were not.

We need to be deeply worried about the prevalence of this assumption among Law Enforcement that “resisting” arrest automatically means it’s acceptable to use lethal force to subdue a “suspect.”  I seriously don’t give a fuck if the suspect is resisting or not. It doesn’t mean you need to kill them or use excessive force. 

I strongly suggest LEO’s would be less likely to endorse excessive force of they or their families were subjected to their all too common playbook.

Everyday there is a story of excessive force by the police, brutality, mistaken shootings. We need to address this growing epidemic of state sponsored brutality before we, our families, and are friends become suspects and subject to this treatment.

 

 

 

 

I’m Coming Out… As a Flexitarian

So I’ve realized that when it comes to my daily chow down, I am actually a “flexitarian.” What the Hell is that? Like everyone else, I love complicated labels most people haven’t heard of that I get to explain the meaning of to people. Gives me a feeling of superiority.

In my infallible understanding, Flexitarian is similar to semi-vegetarianism in that they consume meat very occasionally – usually 10-5% or less of their weekly food intake. In my case that applies to dairy products as well.

Unfortunately it means that I can’t claim a moral high ground over other people now with my very small percentage of dairy/meat consumption. I always find it interesting how many vegetarians and vegans forget that people choose that “lifestyle choice” – oh damn is that a buzzword these days – because of the dietary implications rather then a save the animals plea.

Will I become a vegetarian and vegan eventually? Despite my respect  and understanding for their food choices – quite healthy – when you think about it , I don’t think I can give up deep dish cheese pizzas quite yet.  

One thing to admit is that living with my parents – both vegans – makes being a flexitarian very easy considering I have to eat out to get any meat or cheese. Considering I like to save money on food, oatmeal, fruit, vegetables, and rice/beans are phenomenal food choices.

Parting thought: You either pay your grocer or your doctor. I definitely lean toward the former.  

Offensive Humor Is Everyone’s Guilty Pleasure.

Have you ever heard a very offensive joke and then laughed maniacally and hysterically? Have you then said to yourself and/or those around you in a low voice, “Wow, that was really bad.” as if that would somehow cushion the reality of how bad the joke is? 

Well, I certainly have, and I can guarantee that almost everyone has done the same. There is just something about those extremely offensive jokes that you can say online – reddit – and with your “friends” group that you can’t say in public places – like your job – because you may get fired, have your reputation destroyed; all the outcomes that people dread in today’s “You will walk on glass” society. 

I was at a close friend’s house yesterday, and we literally spent at least 3 hours reading through this reddit thread of very offensive jokes and laughing our asses off. I was crying at one point.  After essentially every joke, I couldn’t help thinking to myself, “Wow that’s really bad.”  No, these we actually really bad.  These were jokes that you would have to utter in the dark cobbles for fear of people overhearing them and shunning you. 

I’ll post a sample of just the Princess Diana jokes as well, those might only be very offensive to the British. Observe, and of course laugh:

What was the last thing to go through Princess Diana’s mind before she died? The stereo.
How are a cell phone signal and Princess Diana alike?
They both die in tunnels.
How are Princess Diana and Pink Floyd similar?
Their last big hit was the wall.

I couldn’t help post a few of these on facebook and at least one of my friends did not find these funny – or at least she doesn’t admit to it. She made a valid point however in that, “Nothing about someone dying is funny.”   From a moral standpoint, mine that it to say, she is right.  Some dark corner of myself however found all three of those jokes about someone dying to be absolutely hysterical. I couldn’t help but laugh. 

Is this just a guilty pleasure that I have? Should I be laughing at the misfortune – understatement indeed – of others?  Why am I so amused by the rather horrid nature of some of the reddit jokes I saw? I wonder if knowing how bad the jokes are makes them that much funnier because of just how bad they are. 

There is however a disturbing thought I have regarding comedy in general: The concept of comedy at its root is pointing to the misfortune of others at some level and being amused by it.   I think this is true of even the most “innocent” jokes. There is some sort of stupidity, ignorance, misfortune, ect that we are all poking fun at. Seriously, think about it. 

One final thought: Is comedy really an “all or none of the above” kind of concept? Either all comedy is off limits, or nothing is for comedy to truly be an art that can freely express itself? Beats me. 

Sworn In blows up. Damn.

Say what you want about Sworn In, but never have I seen a band in our scene blow up this quick and this fast. It was probably the tours and those fests that played a major part, but to give at least some credit where credit is due, there is not much out there that sounds like Sworn In.  They have nailed the “I’m really pissed and angry,” sound like no one else I’ve heard.

I’ve been following Sworn In since the day they released their Cartharis EP.  Out of the musical ilk that was Buried By The Ocean, came one of the most surprising EPs I had ever heard from a local band.  It’s been a few years and their sound has certainly changed, but as their most recent music video has made evident, people certainly like it.

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Whether you love or hate Sworn In, the fact that they released this music video on August 15th and it already has 190k+ views is pretty damn incredible. I didn’t see any band from our scene ever getting this kind of exposure, but I’m glad I was wrong.  The people arguing back and forth on the youtube comments are something that every local band in the scene only wishes it had. All publicity is good publicity – or is at least publicity for that matter – which is hard to get in today’s over saturated music scene.

The Death Card

To enjoy Sworn In, you must appreciate this album and specifically this band for what they are, not what your preferred metal, hardcore, whatever tastes.   Their music is obvious and straightforward; it’s heavy and there to smash your face in.  The Death Card doesn’t wreak of technical riffs, catchy choruses, and ambient melodies because that is not who Sworn in is.  If you are looking for something that sounds Between the Buried and Me, Born Of Osiris, or whomever go listen to them instead.

What about Sworn In themselves? Did Sworn In overreact when The Death Card leaked? Yes.  That leak gave them invaluable and FREE exposure to amp up the release of The Death Card that much more. In fact, they have gotten plenty of negative feedback from people in our scene, myself included, but for once let’s support a band from our scene that is living their dream. I personally abhor the lyrics of Sworn In because of the negativity and the worldview, but if I want uplifting lyrics there are plenty of bands to choose from.

So when you listen to Sworn In, put all expectations aside and listen to them for what they are. Forget that you hate Tyler, preferred Gene’s vocals, or that Chris is a really nice guy and just listen to the music; no more and no less. Stay metal?

I’m offended! The Rise of the Keyboard Warrior.

These day’s it seems that no matter what you do, you are going to offend someone. Whether you eat a slice of pizza,  play GTA 5, listen to whatever music you prefer, say how much you like someone or a particular idea, someone is going to get offended.

Well, I’m sure plenty of people, including myself, are sick and tired of it. We’ve walked on glass for so long -both out of the goodness of our hearts and because we care about our reputations and future employment – that we’ve fallen through the glass, cut our feet on it, and have begun to pick up the smashed pieces in our hands with dubious intent.

The internet however has given us that avenue in which we can express our discomfort, displeasure, annoyance, and down right distaste for all.  No, don’t judge.  Having that “release” is essential to our continued and approved social behavior in every day life.  Bar fights over stupid things, blowing up characters backed by the voices of 12 year olds on Call of Duty, and stealing things in Skyrim without remorse are all examples of what we want to do but can’t.

So we hide behind our keyboards as anonymous posters on forums and message boards as we wreck havoc. Trolling is so addicting because it something that you can’t do in real life. 

Let’s face it, people want to say whatever the hell is on their mind without fear of consequence.  We’ve somewhat employed comedy to that extent, but not everyone is a comedian.  So where’s the release for the rest of us? It’s at our finger tips touching our keyboards – and our phones –  as we sling mud on youtube, cause strife on reddit, and secretly browse the /b/ board on 4chan.  Sometimes, you just have to let some steam go without fear of repercussion.

It is for this very reason that anonymity is so powerful and important.  There are of course people who get offended easily want to remove that shroud so they can get vengeance.  To them I say: “Get over it. “

To those wishing for increased anonymity to please their hedonistic darker urges; proxies are and always will be your friend.  Just make sure to always use at least 7 of them.  So sling some mud on a message board, troll on a feminist website, or post what you really think about a philosophical icon – it will feel incredible.